I don’t post in this thread much (and haven’t been posting much on this site lately, mostly because I’ve been having health issues.) Anyway, I’ve been having some trouble in my relationship recently and just wanted to get some advice.
I picked up a side hustle because the virus has greatly reduced my income at work. Spouse has been very supportive of me and my health issues, but she doesn’t know about this side hustle and I’d prefer if she didn’t find out. Our relationship could be ruined by it (it’s not exactly legal) but I just think the extra income is absolutely necessary right now, so I’ve been sneaking around her back to do it. I do it because I love her and know we need money right now. I’ve made up excuses as to where I’m going to cover it up, and it seems like she’s been believing everything so far.
A few days ago, I was chilling with her when my cell went off (the cell for my side hustle, which she has no idea I own). I don’t answer and play it off, hoping she doesn’t make much of it. After that, I had to leave home for my side hustle, and I thought I’d come back at a normal time later that day, but I ran into some trouble at work and was gone for longer than I anticipated. SO had no way of reaching out to me during this time. Meanwhile, she’s trying to figure out where I’m at, and she gets her brother-in-law (who works for the DEA) to check my call logs to see if there’s anyway of finding out where I went or who called me earlier that day.
To avoid getting into hot water, I was able to play my absence off as part of this sickness that I’m going through. Something like a fugue state. Went to the hospital and the doctors even believed it. She’s relieved to be reunited with me, but mentions that she heard my phone ring and that the phone logs don’t back that up, so I must have a second phone. I respond by saying “what you heard earlier wasn’t my ringtone, but my alarm going off to remind me to take my medicine.” It seemed like a perfectly reasonable response, and she doesn’t call me a liar or anything like that, but that same day I notice she’s giving me the cold shoulder. She’s clearly upset but won’t address it. It’s been like this for a few days now.
I kinda just feel like—why don’t you just tell me how you’re feeling so we could hash it out? If you think I’m lying, just say I’m lying. If not, then tell me how what’s going on.
So anyway, do you guys think she’s a bitch too?
