RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011

[team filler]

same goes for if you do a couple months or more in jail. women get lonely and horny, breh. they're gonna fuck if you ain't around. you may find exceptions to this, but the majority of the time it's going to happen.

[Rahxephon91]

Well that doesn't really make any sense to me and seems to be counter productive thinking. We were in a relationship when she moved. Why would I think just because she moved she'd fuck someone else? That would have been cheating and thinking about that sure would'nt have helped me. I did'nt think about or attempt to have sex with anyone because she was gone. We had trust in each other.

And while you will say you weren't in a relationship for the last couple of weeks, I didnt think she'd do that so quickly or right now as she said it wasn't going to happen and to not worry. Ok well I was wrong, but my point is really before this I'm not sure why I should have expected her to fuck other people. That doesn't seem like a healthy outlook.

You say don't become bitter, but the lesson here seems to be don't trust people and become bitter. So what is it? In plenty of relationships theres probably going to be plenty of time where you're not together, am I just supposed to expect because I'm not in the immediate area my partner is going to fuck someone? Should I hover around my next partner? I don't get the lesson here beyond never attempt a long distant relationship which doesn't seem to be a positive lesson.  I mean yeah I'm not going to try that again, but still.

[Rufus]

The lesson is to assume that "let's take a break" is just a euphemism for breaking up.

[Rahxephon91]

Well I guess I was an idiot. Hilariously she said she’d be hurt if I had sex with anyone else. The good thing about her being away at least is that there’s no chance of me interacting with her. So that will help with not dwelling on it. And yeah even if it is my insecurity l don’t want to be friends with an ex.

[team filler]

You aren't an idiot, you just didn't understand how these things usually work out. Don't think anyone here would recommend you staying friends with her at this point.

[Rufus]

Well I guess I was an idiot. Hilariously she said she’d be hurt if I had sex with anyone else. The good thing about her being away at least is that there’s no chance of me interacting with her. So that will help with not dwelling on it. And yeah even if it is my insecurity l don’t want to be friends with an ex.

She sounds like an asshole.

[nudemacusers]

I’ve never been friends with an ex. Why bother, World is big enough.

Pump and dump I say. 

[Raist]

Hilariously she said she’d be hurt if I had sex with anyone else.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Is your ex friends with the possum girl? Just, sayin'.

[Atramental]

Possum girl recently became monogamous. A last ditch effort trying to salvage her smoldering relationship with heroin boy.

Also, she’s been wanting to see me every week now but I’ve been pulling back a lot with her. Absence makes the heart grow fonder etc. etc. 

She no joke briefly burst into tears when we last met and told me how glad she was to have me in her life. 

[VomKriege]

At least Rahx acts out in anger.
Man, Atra, I'm not in your shoes and all but often it does come out like that.

[Rufus]

Atra, have you read the Satanic Bible at any point? 👀

[mormapope]

Imagine thinking you're a badass gangsta for being a shitty and manipulative friend.

I was about to say. Unless you're on some sort of suicidal bad behavior bender, being an asshole will eventually haunt you or fuck you up emotionally at some point.

If you want some feeling of power, get into BDSM. Legit Doms are empathetic and decent people tho.

[Atramental]

Atra, have you read the Satanic Bible at any point? 👀

Yes, among other similar texts & philosophies.

[nachobro]

such as the joker movie? incels on shrooms rise up

[Atramental]

Imagine thinking you're a badass gangsta for being a shitty and manipulative friend.

I’m on the surface treating her like I would any other friend. (Well... minus the making out when she was still poly)

Logistically I cannot hangout with the same friend each week because we all have different schedules.

Also, this intentional distancing is preventing her from manipulating me into becoming her “substitute gay best friend” (who recently moved away) or “I see you as a brother” friend.

[Atramental]

We both flat out told each other we love each other.
And I do resent her a bit for passing me up for a heroin addict who can’t hold a job for more than a few months...

But hey, we all make mistakes. All shall be forgiven once that relationship meets its inevitable end and she eventually comes around to me.

And if not then she’ll become one of many acquaintances that I’m friendly to but not super close with.

[nachobro]

what a weird fucking dude you are

[Atramental]

We both flat out told each other we love each other.
And I do resent her a bit for passing me up for a heroin addict who can’t hold a job for more than a few months...

But hey, we all make mistakes. All shall be forgiven once that relationship meets its inevitable end and she eventually comes around to me.

And if not then she’ll become one of many acquaintances that I’m friendly to but not super close with.

To be real with you both of these sound like massive assumptions. If she does love you then why is she still with a heroin addict?

She’s giving him one more chance before their 1st anniversary to get his shit together because she still loves him. But she even admitted to me that that love for him has dwindled considerably.

[Atramental]

what a weird fucking dude you are

I’m a product of my upbringing & environment.

Manipulation is a way of life & survival for me.

edit: Also, being genuine has only fucked me over. Countless times. It’s part of the reason why I lost my marketing job because I gave my sociopath creative director too much rope to hang myself with.

[CatsCatsCats]

Does it... have to be?

[nachobro]

So what's your face tat of?

[CatsCatsCats]

For anyone keeping score on bire open arrangements, the wife and I stopped being open like 10 months ago, and mostly unrelated but we’re now on the rocks. I’m having a pretty hard time with it.

[Atramental]

Does it... have to be?

Ever since I’ve started dating its been this way.

Be genuine & too friendly, women lose interest/get weirded out/want to treat you like their bestie.
Be somewhat cold & distant with some warmness sprinkled in (like their fathers most likely), they chase after you & wanna sit on your dick. 

edit: also, possum girl isn’t the only gal I’ve been hanging out with.

I’m seeing this blonde bimbo as well since the other girl with the short hair lost interest because we lived too far away from each other: https://imgur.com/a/LFEc3e0

[toku]

Does it... have to be?

Ever since I’ve started dating its been this way.

Be genuine & too friendly, women lose interest/get weirded out/want to treat you like their bestie.
Be somewhat cold & distant with some warmness sprinkled in (like their fathers most likely), they chase after you & wanna sit on your dick. 

damn esch was right

[mormapope]

Eh, I've found true love by taking risks and communicating my most genuine and true self. That doesn't mean dumping all your darkest and fucked up emotions. It means talking thru that dark shit and unraveling each other.

It feels nice to nut in a mouth or hole, but to find your soulmate(s), there's nothing more gratifying than that. It ain't easy tho.

[Atramental]

If you ever find yourself using the words "seeing this bimbo", change.

She’s not very bright though. 

She’s like your stereotypical “dumb blonde” with a thick southern accent.

[Atramental]

you're making it worse

[Atramental]

How about this, I do what works for me and you all do what works for you.

[nachobro]

that smooth guy, max chill, drugged up, mind expanding facade dropping real quick

[Atramental]

that smooth guy, max chill, drugged up, mind expanding facade dropping real quick

I can be ur angel or ur debil 

[nachobro]

keep on rollin, roman. you'll bag that dumb heroin broad that you already resent with your hillbilly charm soon enough and it's sure to work out perfectly

[Raist]

Guys, give Atra a break.

Every bit of information we've had about that possum girl up till this day make it clear she's premium wife material.

[BisMarckie]

Does it... have to be?

Ever since I’ve started dating its been this way.

Be genuine & too friendly, women lose interest/get weirded out/want to treat you like their bestie.
Be somewhat cold & distant with some warmness sprinkled in (like their fathers most likely), they chase after you & wanna sit on your dick. 

edit: also, possum girl isn’t the only gal I’ve been hanging out with.

I’m seeing this blonde bimbo as well since the other girl with the short hair lost interest because we lived too far away from each other: https://imgur.com/a/LFEc3e0

There is a middle ground between being a doormat and acting like a dick to chase some tail.

Since I have done this myself in my early 20‘s: Pretending to be someone else is not a recipe for happiness. In retrospect, I would have been happier playing vidya instead.

[CatsCatsCats]

The short version is I realized too late that I’m a pile of unresolved traumas and it ended up with my wife seeing me as a burden and killed the attraction in my marriage.

[VomKriege]

Man that sucks.

[nudemacusers]

How about this, I do what works for me and you all do what works for you.

At some point fucking people you clearly despise and think of as lesser than you will stop filling your god-hole guilt.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I’m sorry to hear, CatsCatsCats. I hope you all will be able to resolve this and move forward together.

[OnlyRegret]

nah, just convincing a close friend of mine to get an abortion. 

edit: It's not mine btw. 

Sorry, but why exactly are you attempting to make her choice yourself? Or is this more of the manipulative shitheel business where you puppet someone through a very serious time in their life for your perverse satisfaction?

[Atramental]

nah, just convincing a close friend of mine to get an abortion. 

edit: It's not mine btw. 

Sorry, but why exactly are you attempting to make her choice yourself? Or is this more of the manipulative shitheel business where you puppet someone through a very serious time in their life for your perverse satisfaction?

Jesus...

She was planning on getting one anyway. And I’m just one of several friends who support her decision.

[OnlyRegret]

Okay, the combination of "convincing" and your earlier comments didn't have me look at that in good faith

[VomKriege]

That goes for Rahx too but at one point you need to realize that we're not so much judging what's happening in your lives so much as what (and how) you're telling us happen.

Atra you get a ribbing because the tone of some of your messages is pretty wack (like "Sometimes miracles happen... The guy nearly OD'ed" ). Contrast post #13583 and the ones after for instance, there's a pretty massive gulf in how you talk about people, first assuming that weird player facade and talking about your friends as pawns then talking a lot more plainly (and healthy sounding) of them like... Well, human beings. All the latest exchanges from today shift from one to another.

[Atramental]

What can I say, I’m a Gemini. 

[team filler]

is that a gang?

[nachobro]

it means hes actually will smith

[Atramental]

is that a gang?

Nah it’s my drug dealer name.

Gem for short. 💎

[team filler]

is that a gang?

Nah it’s my drug dealer name.

Gem for short. 💎

need you to decipher this for me, serious 

[Atramental]

is that a gang?

Nah it’s my drug dealer name.

Gem for short. 💎

need you to decipher this for me, serious 

just your run of the mill new age psycho babble but said poorly/incoherently

listen to this instead: https://aishadevi.bandcamp.com/track/time-tool

[toku]

bless up

[chronovore]

We both flat out told each other we love each other.
And I do resent her a bit for passing me up for a heroin addict who can’t hold a job for more than a few months...

But hey, we all make mistakes. All shall be forgiven once that relationship meets its inevitable end and she eventually comes around to me.

And if not then she’ll become one of many acquaintances that I’m friendly to but not super close with.

OK, sorry to be theBore-ing Dad, but here goes:

This is utterly standard, bullshit, Good Guy behavior. She's broken. She's in a broken relationship. You're waiting until she realizes you're a better choice.

Straight up, this is not what it means to be a decent person. Nothing good can come of this.

You're broken, too. You can choose to work on that, or just find another broken person who fulfills your expectations of the universe, which is what this looks like from here.

[skullstorm]

Okay, the combination of "convincing" and your earlier comments didn't have me look at that in good faith

Yea the whole "I have power and control" and "ending someone's bloodline" and being able to "make or break people with my connections" and then the "I've said too much already" was a bit ummm..... edgy  Like is that what you really believe Atra or was it just the drugs talking?

I mean it's good to be confident and all but maybe tone down the megalomania a bit lol.

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And yeah maybe don't call women you're dating bimbos unless they're the type that identify as such. It all adds to the edgelordy vibe.

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[BIONIC]

BAN ATRA AND KILL HIM END HIS BLOODLINE

[brawndolicious]

what a weird fucking dude you are

I’m a product of my upbringing & environment.

Manipulation is a way of life & survival for me.

edit: Also, being genuine has only fucked me over. Countless times. It’s part of the reason why I lost my marketing job because I gave my sociopath creative director too much rope to hang myself with.

Dude you're just talking shit about people behind their back, you're not manipulating anyone. Getting an abortion and stringing along a crackhead are the things people pretend to ask for advice on because they want some opinions on both sides.

If you want to be able to be genuine without alienating yourself, you have to be less judgemental.

[curly]

Who would you prefer, a cool heroin addict or a guy who drops acid and then cringeposts on the bore?

[Atramental]

Cringe posting is like taking a psychic shit. Can't let it build up too much in your brain or it'll start to spill out IRL. 

And I'm well aware how despicable I truly am but a good chunk of my friends out in meat space call me a saint or guardian angel (mostly because they're even more damaged or despicable than I am). 

[benjipwns]

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there's got to be a better way to do the I's for a banner like this

[nudemacusers]

Who would you prefer, a cool heroin addict or a guy who drops acid and then cringeposts on the bore?

In a few months’ time we will likely have both. 👀

[Space Jam is Canon]

Cringe posting is like taking a psychic shit. Can't let it build up too much in your brain or it'll start to spill out IRL. 

And I'm well aware how despicable I truly am but a good chunk of my friends out in meat space call me a saint or guardian angel (mostly because they're even more damaged or despicable than I am). 

You're not fooling anybody. Get your ass to therapy.

[Atramental]

I was planning to until my fucking job decided to block me from becoming a salaried employee w/ benefits...

I should’ve never gone into design as a profession. I should’ve just gotten a factory job at BMW and did art/design on the side.

[Atramental]

Also, I haven’t been sleeping well lately (mostly due to my job) so that of course is fucking with my mental health.