No one gives a shit you fucking imbecile. Stop word policing and understand that normal people don't care about this shit, you're not helping by obsessing over this insignificant crap. Moreover these completely arbitrary terms are used to describe EXTREMELY complicated brain problems which is why these experts constantly disagree with each other. They're just words that don't really mean shit other than what the experts of that society think is the degree of the problem. Experts that are influenced by everything in that society including hate, fear, political correctness, social media crusades, homophobia and so on which explains why experts from different countries and eras have different opinions about this shit.
The biggest problem we have here is that no "side" ever assumes good-faith. Understandable because le internet, but it's a pervasive distrust of someone's sincerity that leads folk to think, for example, that misgendering is deliberate rather than an honest mistake. This provokes an angry response, which makes the perpetrator defensive and leads to a hostile action on both sides. This shit literally feeds itself.
It's got to the point where it's all got a bit
Wargames. The only winning move is not to play - just don't engage in discussion, don't have a (public) opinion and move on. I agree with Optimus that we still barely understand a fraction about the condition, but I also try to remember that I don't know what it's like to feel as if I'm the wrong gender and to be fighting a daily battle of not belonging, so it very much reduces any meaningful input I may have. I also think it may be similar to
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Max in Mary & Max - the outside world saw his Asperger's as an illness and something to cure, whilst he saw it as part of him and liked it, which made him very hostile to outside attempts to "help"
. But, yeah, whatever, just try and assume good faith.
