To be fair, she sounds like a female evil lore, and that's never a good look,
but you go sis, make the men pay for dates because wage gaps and don't they dare think they're ever getting sex from you.
Because you're a strong independent woman who don't need no man! right? God help these gen z kids dating today, no wonder they're all so fucking miserable.
This carepost sounds almost like an application to date her.
So I am a black man who dates mostly black women on dating Apps. I am an extrovert who loves smart, nerdy introverts. So here are my response to your concerns. Keep in mind I am not a saint when it comes to dating, but I am gainfully employed, an admitted nerd, single (though that might change with this current woman that I am dating) No children, and relatively well-liked by most people (aka good hygiene, funny, handsome enough, etc)
(I'm not just looking for sex) I am usually not just looking for sex either......initially. However, that's because I appreciate the intimacy of sex with a partner I am attracted too. I am looking for physical attraction and expressions of that attraction. There is no timeline but a lack of physical attraction will lead to an end of the relationship. Women are usually surprised how quickly I ask them out after we chat, but I tell them from the start I am not looking for a text buddy. I am not a 100% sapiosexual (though I can't date a dumb woman). I feel like that is how it is with most men if they are honest. After they get to a certain level of dating someone, you want to pleasure of a physical relationship. Now does that mean sex early? No. but I am looking for signs of mutual sexual attraction early in the relationship.
(The flipping fetishization I get is unacceptable and annoying.) That is definitely weirdo shit and you should not accept it. Now is someone says "I love dark skin girls because they are beautiful!") or something like that sure. I told this current girl I loved her intelligence but it is not a fetish just a preference. If he says some dumb shit like "Dark girls do what light skin girls won't do)...... get the hell away from that weirdo you deserve better!
(Quality of dates.) That comes with experience and income. Not to say you should date older guys, but when I was 24 I was transitioning from college dating (aka Netflix/DVD and snuggle, leading to Netflix/DVD and chill) to now I have to take a date to a decent restaurant and talk. I hate to say it but its not fair to think a guy at 24 knows what is up. Usually, at that age, people have no cash, and if you do have a job that pays well you are working your ass off to get promoted to a better paying/stable job. Meaning you haven't assessed and adjusted to the new requirements of dating. At that age, I use to take women to a rinky dick bar where the bartender would literally light the bar on fire and pretend he was Harry Potter...... It was stupid, but the drinks were cheap, and it was interesting enough to give me a topic to talk about. I would actually suggest inviting guys to meet you in a neighborhood that has good places to eat and then forcing them to take you to not an expensive restaurant but a good one. Maybe be really cool and say "hey let me get the first round" or "this place has good appetizers, I'll get a round of wings for us" and then see if they offer to pay their shares like drinks or an entree. If they say no it cost you 15 bucks to realize the guy isn't what you are looking for.
(Age of men.) I recently met this really great woman 6 years younger than me (She's 29 I'm 35). We're early in the relationship but I like her enough I'm putting in actual effort to hopefully make it last. She is a black girl magic candidate and I appreciate her for it, she on the flip side never dated anyone as old as me. The saying is guys mature slower than women and maybe it is true. God knows the stories she told me of her prior dates has me freaking out cause those other guys were idiots and assholes...... but I know when I was there age I was an idiot, an asshole, and broke to boot..... Hell, when I was their age I probably would have gone after an entirely different type of woman because I didn't know what I wanted in a relationship at that age. I'm not saying date older, I'm saying cut guys a break. It takes a lot of self-assessment to know what you want at 21-24 and most guys don't even begin to think like that until 27-30.
(Attraction in general/Basicness of men) Most people..... hell damn near everyone is basic. It is true. All of our hobbies are seen as basic to people who don't share that interest. Just see if he likes you enough to not call your interest basic and then bothers to learn about the things that make you tick. I am literally learning about this woman I'm dating because I feel she is worth the effort. I don't always do that, hell I hardly do. So based on your OP I don't think you need a guy to jump into the conversation as much as they are willing to catch up. The quote about "by Odin, by Amaterasu, by Anansi, by the powers of Greyskull" to me screams you need to find a guy willing to learn that, because the guys who get that reference at your age are still focused on video games or probably getting ready to go to grad school, or dating their current girl because they haven't come to terms they have to move on from Netflix and chill to dating. Find a guy who is so into you he is willing to be less "basic" to impress you.
(Guys liking me, then I'll like them back, then they won't respond.) It goes both ways. Hinge is really good for black people dating, better for black men than black women. A lot of women make the first move on that app. I used OkCupid and the Eharmony (which is a mess app but I digress) occasionally I have liked a woman and didn't get a response (I tend to use "let me ask a question, and compliment" openers). You got to deal with it. No short cuts, keep meeting people and hitting that like button. You got to put the work in yourself, I don't know if anyone really knows what they want until they know exactly what they don't want. So learn what you don't want and then go for the opposite of that.
So the theme of this is dating is all about finding someone worth the effort of actually caring about, who in turn thinks you are worth the same (or maybe even more) effort. Give the guys in your age group a chance, also don't put to much pressure on yourself to meet someone. Focus on self-improvement for 6 months and focus on what you have learned about yourself and what you want from dating. Then come back and be selective in your pursuit of that.
That's my advice. I hope it helps
