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[Pissy F Benny]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/page-50#post-89013633

Official Staff Communication
The news today is extremely abhorrent, and many people are furious over the reversal of Roe v. Wade. All of us on staff are feeling similarly - defeated, angry, frustrated - we understand. But we cannot allow for calls to violence here. We will not host that content and anyone doing it will catch a ban. Similarly, dismissive calls to "just move" that downplay the reality of many people's situations will also be moderated.

I don't see the issue with this, no glowie shit and let people vent is a fair way to go about things

[Propagandhim]

Agree.  Resetera should allow them to be as concrete as possible about their plans with details, times, and an effort to organize others

...for venting purposes.




 

[Pissy F Benny]

AND DURING PRIDE MONTH:
https://twitter.com/amber_kadabra/status/1540360263265701888

Isn't pregnant transgender men such an extreme outlier that theyve been worldwide news the literal 2 or 3 times such a thing has ever happened?

[Pissy F Benny]

They really need to start drumming it into kids heads in school and shit that things can happen and it not be about you

[Nintex]

Did you know the Capcom Fighting Collection is out today, during Pride Month no less.

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[Propagandhim]

big Kittyrawr fan, Nintex?   

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/justice-clarence-thomas-wants-scotus-to-correct-the-error-of-legal-gay-marriage.600036/page-6#post-89016771

I would like to correct the error of Clarence Thomas still breathing.

[benjipwns]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/beavis-and-butt-head-do-the-universe-ot-june-23rd.590484/

Oh wow the white privilege bit had me in stitches watching this, just like the 90s.

The 'white privilege' bit was actually set in a gender studies class full of typical ERA posters.

Also it was making fun of you.

Absolute zero self awareness.

Pwnz posts here so he probably gets it.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/justice-clarence-thomas-wants-scotus-to-correct-the-error-of-legal-gay-marriage.600036/#post-89003223

User Banned (1 Month): Calls for direct violence

Here's an idea.

Kill Clarence Thomas. (y'know, with kindness)

"Direct violence"


https://www.resetera.com/threads/justice-clarence-thomas-wants-scotus-to-correct-the-error-of-legal-gay-marriage.600036/page-2#post-89004366

User Banned (1 Month): Calling for violence

If protests turn violent and something happens to him, he only has himself to blame for taking people's rights away.

Protesting needs to turn to rioting. Abortion and gay marriage are overwhelmingly popular. This shit bag is using the court to push his own agenda on to the American populace. Fuck peace, time has come for violence

[benjipwns]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/justice-clarence-thomas-wants-scotus-to-correct-the-error-of-legal-gay-marriage.600036/page-2#post-89004366

User Banned (1 Month): Calling for violence

If protests turn violent and something happens to him, he only has himself to blame for taking people's rights away.

Protesting needs to turn to rioting. Abortion and gay marriage are overwhelmingly popular. This shit bag is using the court to push his own agenda on to the American populace. Fuck peace, time has come for violence

Really kinda doubt the Supreme Court Justice is the one who would get hurt if "protests turn violent" or to "rioting", do they think he lives there?

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Unspoken in all of these is the idea that Thomas being murdered for views he's had for 30 years (that no other Justice has signed onto) would change at least two of the Court's other five conservative votes.

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"he only has himself to blame for taking people's rights away" sounds pretty alt-right to me.

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[benita]

SMH at the rampant TERFism going on in the Roe v Wade thread.

[benita]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/post-89022477

i recognize most of y'all are grandstanding and have no intention to do violence in support of your beliefs

Wrekt.

[HaughtyFrank]

We made that staff post, in part, because of liability concerns. We are tracked by various agencies and numerous bad actors, and we cannot reasonably allow for this kind of rhetoric to go unpunished on ResetEra if we care for the forum to continue existing.

Also understand that the staff post and my clarification is, in turn, not a moral declaration about the issue.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/post-89022759

Nepenthe basically saying that she'd love to encourage violence if it wasn't for those annoying laws 

[Propagandhim]

"And we should hang Clarence Thomas by his neck."
"...right?  Guys?"



"NOT cool dude. Yes, we want to kill him, but no racial civil rights era connotations.  We're not trying to go down the dark path of Smash Brothers."

[Propagandhim]

We made that staff post, in part, because of liability concerns. We are tracked by various agencies and numerous bad actors, and we cannot reasonably allow for this kind of rhetoric to go unpunished on ResetEra if we care for the forum to continue existing.

Also understand that the staff post and my clarification is, in turn, not a moral declaration about the issue.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/post-89022759

Nepenthe basically saying that she'd love to encourage violence if it wasn't for those annoying laws 

And to be clear, your morals are "commit violence against anyone with opposing beliefs and fuck the integrity of any system that allows opposition to me.  And then decry political violence when they do it."

[benjipwns]

The "liability concerns" are that MOBA would clean out the entire staff, there's no actual "liability concerns" in terms of something legal. You don't get a legal waiver if you ban people who post actual inciting statements lmao

[benjipwns]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/post-89022477

I took a small glance at this thread and got what I needed from it right away:

We aren't even in a Democracy. We're in an oligarchy.

Now these countries below (& this is according to the Democracy Index of 2021)?

1. Norway.
2. New Zealand.
3. Finland.
4. Sweden.
5. Iceland.
6. Denmark.
7. Ireland.
8. Taiwan.
9. Australia.
10. New Zealand.
11. Netherlands.
12. Canada.
13. Uruguay.
14. Luxembourg.
15. Germany.
16. South Korea.
17. Japan.
18. United Kingdom.
19. Mauritius.
20. Austria.
21. Costa Rica.

They have real democracies.

You realize that many of the countries on that list are also spiraling into fascism as well, right?

[BIONIC]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/why-does-the-wii-to-this-day-gets-so-much-hate-for-having-shovelware-but-other-consoles-like-the-ps2-or-ds-dont.600183/

Nintoddler still mad 16 years later  

[Uncle]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/post-89022477

I took a small glance at this thread and got what I needed from it right away:

We aren't even in a Democracy. We're in an oligarchy.

Now these countries below (& this is according to the Democracy Index of 2021)?

1. Norway.
2. New Zealand.
3. Finland.
4. Sweden.
5. Iceland.
6. Denmark.
7. Ireland.
8. Taiwan.
9. Australia.
10. New Zealand.
11. Netherlands.
12. Canada.
13. Uruguay.
14. Luxembourg.
15. Germany.
16. South Korea.
17. Japan.
18. United Kingdom.
19. Mauritius.
20. Austria.
21. Costa Rica.

They have real democracies.

You realize that many of the countries on that list are also spiraling into fascism as well, right?

I'm seeing double! TWO Zealands! 

[benjipwns]

The second is the fascist New Zealand, still ranks 10th somehow!

[Propagandhim]

Reddit having a normal day

[HaughtyFrank]

At least they didn't mention gamergate

[benjipwns]

Reddit having a normal day

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The results of a local criminal trial are not binding on that court or any other that also features a future case, each case is an individual one with an individual set of facts. Happy to help.

The state fighting a successful prosecution of Rittenhouse to the highest level of appeal would have been hilarious though. Not for him or any of the many minorities who would suffer in the mean time under such a regime, but for me and others who love a shitshow obviously.

[BIONIC]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/kevin-fiege-has-revealed-that-marvel-studios-will-be-having-a-panel-at-san-diego-comic-con-this-year-first-panel-since-2019.600138/#post-89017968

I went to like 10 of these panels and they fucking ruled every time

honestly worth having to wait in line for 18 hours and sleep on the convention center sidewalk to get in

[benjipwns]

https://twitter.com/irishlashesbq/status/1540431754074488833

Be careful out there Bire members.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/page-67#post-89027844

I agree with this. Part of the problem is finding people to run though.

I've been told throughout my life, at least when I became slightly more socially aware, that I should run for local office. But then I come to Era and see that "progressive candidates are unelectable."

So why the fuck should I waste my time?

There's plenty of good folks out there who know their communities, know the problems, and have the heart, but there's no systems, coaching, or apparatus to get these people in seats of power. In fact, the larger majority seems to fundamentally disagree with these people's ideas and vision and are actively hostile towards them.

So, what do we do about that?

[remy]

that has to be bait

[Taco Bell Tower]

We made that staff post, in part, because of liability concerns. We are tracked by various agencies and numerous bad actors, and we cannot reasonably allow for this kind of rhetoric to go unpunished on ResetEra if we care for the forum to continue existing.

Also understand that the staff post and my clarification is, in turn, not a moral declaration about the issue.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/post-89022759

Nepenthe basically saying that she'd love to encourage violence if it wasn't for those annoying laws 

We are tracked by various agencies and numerous bad actors

[benjipwns]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/page-67#post-89027844

I agree with this. Part of the problem is finding people to run though.

I've been told throughout my life, at least when I became slightly more socially aware, that I should run for local office. But then I come to Era and see that "progressive candidates are unelectable."

So why the fuck should I waste my time?

There's plenty of good folks out there who know their communities, know the problems, and have the heart, but there's no systems, coaching, or apparatus to get these people in seats of power. In fact, the larger majority seems to fundamentally disagree with these people's ideas and vision and are actively hostile towards them.

So, what do we do about that?

Not listen to ResetERA.com? Run on those local community issues in those local communities? Not believe that nothing can be accomplished unless you overthrow the entire system from the top down and impose a new reality on the planet? I'm just spitballing here.

[remy]

Everyone knows bore members only do anal

[Propagandhim]

Local community issues like decoupling property from capital

[BIONIC]

Local community issues like buffing Lucio's ult, and distributing Sonic fleshlights to the community.

[benjipwns]

Further down she admitted she couldn't be elected in Atlanta which implies that when she said other people were to blame for telling her "progressives can't get elected" she actually just meant to blame herself for telling herself this perhaps accurately.

She also said that's not how she wants to spend her life. Which is hilarious to then be bitching and blaming the candidates who are willing to run. Especially coming from someone who constantly tries to frame themselves as an activist who is going to abolish the police in Atlanta and then lead Black people to understand praxis.

[Potato]

I like desks from 90's/80's movies/shows etc. as wallpapers, I've had this as my wallpaper for a while now
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There's a desk in that image?

[Potato]

https://twitter.com/irishlashesbq/status/1540431754074488833

Be careful out there Bire members.

If you're a cis gay man and you're having anal sex with your trans boyfriend, how is the pregnancy happening?

[Potato]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/page-67#post-89027844

I agree with this. Part of the problem is finding people to run though.

I've been told throughout my life, at least when I became slightly more socially aware, that I should run for local office. But then I come to Era and see that "progressive candidates are unelectable."

So why the fuck should I waste my time?

There's plenty of good folks out there who know their communities, know the problems, and have the heart, but there's no systems, coaching, or apparatus to get these people in seats of power. In fact, the larger majority seems to fundamentally disagree with these people's ideas and vision and are actively hostile towards them.

So, what do we do about that?

Imagine how quickly NepNep's post history would hit Twitter and result in her cancelling if this happened...

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/page-55#post-89016864

User Banned (1 Month) Advocating violence

Posting this for vibes and genuinely no other reason.

https://twitter.com/DailySquibs/status/1540364716127752193

https://www.resetera.com/threads/supreme-court-overturns-roe-v-wade-see-staff-post.599955/page-65#post-89026362

User Banned (Permanent): Recently actioned for sniping at other specific members and continued hostile behavior. Multiple past infractions for hostility.

I’m no longer engaging with your blatant bad faith posting, purposeful misinterpretation, outright lies, and aggressive pursuit of an off-topic conversation.

You do or don't do as you want.
I won't entertain your American exceptionalism anymore either especially concerning the dismissal of the lives that were lost as a result of the American revolution.

[benjipwns]

It's American exceptionalism to think the native population wouldn't have done any better if America remained part of Britain?

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Matt didn't need to point to Canada, he could have just pointed to what the Colonies already had been doing for over a century while part of Britain.

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[MMaRsu]

Ask and you shall receive
https://www.resetera.com/threads/world-swimming-organisation-fina-bans-trans-women-from-womens-competitions.598173/

In other news

https://www.euronews.com/2022/06/23/germany-allows-transgender-footballers-to-choose-to-play-for-mens-or-womens-team

Seems super fair

😅🤣 How dont Reeee understand that having a transitioned man in womens soccer, still has the advantadges that a man would have? Lung capacity, muscles etc

[Snoopycat_]

I was watching a protest stream in NY earlier. It was mostly people from the LGBT community. The thing that stuck out most was how normal and friendly the protesters were. They weren't screeching about trans rights, Joanne or genocide. They were just having fun while protesting the abortion nonsense. Obviously ree wasn't there

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-sympathy-for-the-plight-of-the-average-amazon-worker-is-causing-conflict-with-my-desire-to-call-complain-and-possibly-get-someone-fired.600213/

My apartment has a hub of lockers that Amazon deliveries get made to. Prior to the Hub they were (sometimes haphazardly) dropped off at the apartment doors. Prior to Covid they were delivered to the leasing office.

I got a call from my leasing office saying that a package of mine was yeeted onto the ground in front of the hub. Not secured into the lockers but put on the ground in a central location with a ton of traffic. The leasing office says they tried to stop the driver but they said they didn't have time to place the packages in the locker.

I'm not sure how mad I should be. In front of apartment doors isn't much more secure but this seems particularly fucky. I'm gritting my teeth as to whether or not I should call and complain. Furthermore, would my complaint even matter? Would most people just not have a problem with this? Help.

The problem is not the worker, it’s Amazon

the amazon worker that literally has put packages on my trash bin was definitely told by amazon to place packages on my trash bin.

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/mass-shooting-at-oslo-gay-bar-leaves-at-least-two-people-dead-ahead-of-pride-parade-19-injured.600240/#post-89033334

I swore to myself that I wouldn’t drink tonight because I need to get pet food early in the morning but after the Supreme Court bullshit today and now this it’s getting hard.

Rest in power, but for all of us that are still out here we have a duty of do better than this. The USA needs urgent reforms with the Supreme Court because the shit that happens in the USA has a ripple effect across the world. It emboldens pieces of shit like this one to pull off stunts like that, from the average mass shooter to other judges. Today has been tough.

[headwalk]

i can actually imagine ree types doing some histrionic sub-david simon "god damn, and i told myself i wouldn't drink tonight" live performance for nobody after a marathon xenosaga/abortion news binge.

[benjipwns]

I was watching a protest stream in NY earlier. It was mostly people from the LGBT community. The thing that stuck out most was how normal and friendly the protesters were. They weren't screeching about trans rights, Joanne or genocide. They were just having fun while protesting the abortion nonsense. Obviously ree wasn't there

Sounds like a fucking centrist protest.

[Nintex]

It emboldens pieces of shit like this one to pull off stunts like that, from the average mass shooter to other judges. Today has been tough.

Fact check

42-year-old Norwegian citizen of Iranian origin

The alleged shooter was known to the police as a potentially radicalized Islamist and had a history of mental illness.

There is reason to think that this may be a hate crime," a police official told reporters

The evidence is conclusive, this is directly related to Roe v. Wade and the US Supreme Court. Thanks Obama.

[Uncle]

Local community issues like buffing Lucio's ult, and distributing Sonic fleshlights to the community.

would it be blue, or would it be that kind of flesh color like his arms and mouth?

[Snoopycat_]

Sounds like a fucking centrist protest.

Ree would have been disgusted by their behaviour. They were out in the sun socialising, having a few drinks and enjoying themselves. There was actual laughter

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

https://twitter.com/irishlashesbq/status/1540431754074488833

Ah yes, the famous Irish endorsement of abortion

[HaughtyFrank]

How about just using a condom if you sleep with people whose genitals you don't even know?

[Potato]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-sympathy-for-the-plight-of-the-average-amazon-worker-is-causing-conflict-with-my-desire-to-call-complain-and-possibly-get-someone-fired.600213/

My apartment has a hub of lockers that Amazon deliveries get made to. Prior to the Hub they were (sometimes haphazardly) dropped off at the apartment doors. Prior to Covid they were delivered to the leasing office.

I got a call from my leasing office saying that a package of mine was yeeted onto the ground in front of the hub. Not secured into the lockers but put on the ground in a central location with a ton of traffic. The leasing office says they tried to stop the driver but they said they didn't have time to place the packages in the locker.

I'm not sure how mad I should be. In front of apartment doors isn't much more secure but this seems particularly fucky. I'm gritting my teeth as to whether or not I should call and complain. Furthermore, would my complaint even matter? Would most people just not have a problem with this? Help.

The problem is not the worker, it’s Amazon

the amazon worker that literally has put packages on my trash bin was definitely told by amazon to place packages on my trash bin.

What colour skin did the worker have though?

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

The current Supreme Court isn't legitimate. How many elected democrats would be willing to say that? I know at least one.
https://twitter.com/DrewHLive/status/1540359953914937349

"I don't like it therefore its not legitimate except in the literal sense of the word so we should have an insurrection" is, uh, literally jan 6th?

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/justice-clarence-thomas-wants-scotus-to-correct-the-error-of-legal-gay-marriage.600036/page-9#post-89038743

This is a giant word salad to try to disguise that you're mad people here won't make calls for violence and get themselves banned. You're really enjoying the finger wagging, hypocritical as it is. If threatening violence is so important for you to see on this forum, do it yourself and eat the ban yourself.

User Banned (Permanent): Advocating violence across a series of posts, ignoring the staff post, previous severe ban for the same

What's hypocritical about it? I listed out three options for everyone here. Fight, get out, or sit on your ass. I chose the second since 2016 and worked my ass to make it a reality. The admin is more than welcome to ban me for my "extremism", I've been quite vocal about revolutionary change that require the blood and death of innocents amidst our current political apathy, because that's how progress has worked 100% time through human history; and we sure are not at an enlightened point to play civility with America being prime example. I've made these calls many times in the past. I just, y'know, focused on my actual real life to do something about it instead of wasting energy accruing Internet points on here hence my lack of post count despite my little "been here since Oct 2017" tag.

Edit: I'll even quote my "extremism" from before that still applies even today.

The US isn't like most countries. The vast majority of its citizens trace ancestry to ancestors leaving their ancestral homes across oceans to arrive here; sometimes for leisure and opportunity, other times in flight of their ancestral homes. My ancestors came to this country fleeing from the effects of WW2, were they supposed to stand and fight and most likely die? Even in a non-wartime scenario were people seeking opportunity not supposed to leave their ancestral homes?

Atop that, just look at American history. This entire country is built off the blood, sweat, tears, and corpses of minorities and what have they gained from it? Just because a number of you have some misguided notion of "American nationalism" doesn't do away with the actual history and reality of this country.

Progress does not happen without blood and death.

[Maiden Voyage]

How about just using a condom if you sleep with people whose genitals you don't even know?

No.

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

I mean, sure, if you're an accelerationist

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like it seem Judge Thomas is

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getting rid of 'useless' democrats (people motivated by realpolitik and willing to sign bipartisan legislation to make incremental gains) in favour of 'true progressives' (populist ideologues) is a galaxy brain move, but if a revolution happens its not going to be college educated bourgeoisie minority lobbyists who control things.

It's the proletariat, who you openly fucking detest

[Uncle]

Progress does not happen without blood and death.

people who spout this rhetoric are so willfully uninformed it's ridiculous

you point to other events and times and say, "well what about this time, a decent president got elected and he passed some really good reforms that amounted to some significant progress, and it all happened relatively peacefully through the normal electoral processes"

and they say "NO there were people who DIED at protests and DIED under the old systems he reformed, which was necessary to promote his rise to power!!"

and it's like oh ok, so that was just minor amounts of death here and there to highlight a problem, not actual violent revolution, so really you're advocating that we keep carrying on as we always have with a few outlier deaths here and there 

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/justice-clarence-thomas-wants-scotus-to-correct-the-error-of-legal-gay-marriage.600036/page-10#post-89044338

I can not say everything I want to say without getting banned. As many, I knew and feared it wouldn’t stop with Roe v Wade, and as a poc with a kid and seeing the landscape this country seems to be headed in—hell, the regression I see the world over—fear does not even begin to cover it at this point.

I’ll do my part, but damn do I hope it actually amounts to something so the rights of all minorities aren’t stripped away, systematically, one by one.

[headwalk]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/justice-clarence-thomas-wants-scotus-to-correct-the-error-of-legal-gay-marriage.600036/page-10#post-89044338

I can not say everything I want to say without getting banned. As many, I knew and feared it wouldn’t stop with Roe v Wade, and as a poc with a kid and seeing the landscape this country seems to be headed in—hell, the regression I see the world over—fear does not even begin to cover it at this point.

I’ll do my part, but damn do I hope it actually amounts to something so the rights of all minorities aren’t stripped away, systematically, one by one.

 

[Raist]

Progress does not happen without blood and death.

That was Putin's reply when he was told they were losing a fuckload of soldiers including high ranking ones.

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-think-i-just-provided-a-formative-sexual-experience-for-someone-else-and-it-was-kind-of-surreal-warning-descriptions-of-gay-sex-stuff.600387/

Okay so not the kind of thread I'd typically make, but I'm really trying to become more open about my sexuality and generally much more sex-positive than I have been in the past, and Era seems pretty receptive to sharing and discussing this kind of stuff, so here goes.

For whatever reason, I've had a growing number of younger guys (18-22) on Grindr and Sniffies pursue me. A couple of them - aged 21 and 22 - have succeeded, and we've fooled around. (I have not met with any 18-20-year-olds but have been pursued, at times aggressively, by them.) As a 35-year-old who hasn't really messed around much with guys of this age, it's kind of a strange experience. I've struggled with my weight throughout my life, but through diet and an intense lifting and running regimen, I've gotten to a point where I get frequently complimented on my looks and physical build. I still have some excess skin from my weight loss and a bit of a spare tire of fat to lose around my midsection that causes me a fair amount of anxiety about my appearance, but suffice it to say that I'm much more attractive and confident about my appearance than I ever have been. And perhaps because I'm both in better shape than I used to be and because I'm getting older, guys in their early 20s seem to be more into me than I've ever experienced.

I have a lot of reservations with hooking up with younger guys - a lot of them relating to the fact that I work at a university. I know the ways in which young adults in this age range are and are not emotionally mature, and the last thing I ever want to do is cause them pain or exploit any kind of power differential. I am extremely careful in this area, both morally and practically, as I have to make sure I am not violating any kind of policy if I hook up with a student at my university. (The policy is pretty straightforward; I need to strictly avoid sexual relationships with anyone that I advise/supervise or could advise/supervise in the future.) I never initiate contact with guys in this age range. If they reach out to me, I might respond, but I'm basically never going to be the one reaching out first. Honestly, even just talking about this makes me feel uncomfortable, but I do think I've established a pretty solid and ethical protocol for handling this kind of thing, and I've certainly not violated any kind of law or policy set by my employer. (Though if anyone here thinks any of this sounds ethically suspect, I can certainly see where you're coming from and I'm open to critique.)

Anyways, at this point in life, I've had plenty of sex. Not a brag - just a reality. Bad sex, great sex, and sex that falls somewhere in between. (Which is most of it.) And when you have sex, you realize that sex isn't porn. Sometimes you don't get off. Sometimes your partner doesn't get off. It's almost always awkward and messy in some fashion, but it can also be passionate and perfect. It really falls all over the map, and you learn to roll with it and not stress out when things aren't as magical as you'd hoped.

On to the main part of the story: I messed around with a 21-year-old guy this morning, and we had a lot of fun. This dude claimed to be a top and told me on Sniffies that he wanted to top me, but once he arrived and we had gotten started, I realized he had a nice ass and I offered to eat him out. And he loved it. Like, just really loved it. And he seemed really surprised by how much he enjoyed it - to the point where I'm not entirely sure if he'd ever had his ass eaten before. I fingered him as well, which he also seemed to like, though not as much as the rimming. He didn't say he was new to these things - it seems like guys never want to paint themselves as sexually inexperienced - but his reactions seemed to indicate that it was either his first time getting rimmed or that I was better at it than other guys who had done it to him. I didn't ask him, but I was curious if he had ever bottomed before, because I think he'd be less of a strict top than he thinks he is.

All that said, although he was able to get pretty hard, he was having problems staying hard, and in the end did not top me or ejaculate. And he was so apologetic about it. He said he was stressed about some personal things and was also in a bit of a hurry - and assured me that it wasn't because he didn't find me attractive. (It was pretty clear that he did - because we made out pretty passionately and aggressively throughout.) I reassured him that it was totally, completely fine. Sex is what it is, and as long as we both had fun, that's all that matters. (For what it's worth, I actually didn't get off, either, but it was still really fun.) Regarding his erection issues - I have a few silicone cock rings in my bedside drawer, which I have found very helpful for staying hard, and explained to him how to use them. I also pulled out some lube for when I was fingering him, and this also seemed somewhat novel to him. He made an admiring comment about how I seemed "pretty kinky," and I laughed, because cock rings and lube are about as vanilla as it gets when it comes to sex supplies and gear.

In the end, I got the sense that this was a unique experience for him - both because of his clear pleasure at experiencing annilingus, his anxiety over performance issues, and the fact that I had the opportunity to show him how to use some basic form of sexual enhancement. I've never felt like I'm all that great at any of this stuff, but both the realization that I seem to be becoming attractive to a set of guys who never really seemed interested in me - and the fact that apparently I have a level of sexual skill and wisdom that less experienced guys find compelling - is just kind of surreal.

Not sure if I'll ever hook up with this guy again. I told him that he's under absolutely no pressure to reach out to me again, but if he does, I'll respond. It was honestly one of the strangest (in a good way, I think) sexual experiences I've ever had.

Has anyone else experienced something like this, i.e., provided a sexual experience that might have been significant for someone else? How did you react to it?

Royalan

I'm still reading your post, but just wanna say that I really want to take that "warning" out of your thread title (not going to, just saying).

Because anybody who has a problem with a thread about "gay sex stuff" can kiss my entire ass.

[ShutUp]

Ree being their usual self again with some of the comments but it’s honestly hard for me to dunk on them or anyone on Twitter after that disgusting decision made yesterday. A truly “what the fuck are you assholes doing?” moment. I’d like to think they wouldn’t dare now go after same sex marriages but after this, who the hell knows.