Author Topic: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011 (Read 1425427 times)

Bebpo · « **Reply #9060 on:** December 02, 2018, 08:03:37 PM »

Quote from: Atramental on December 02, 2018, 08:02:16 PM

Fuck. I met a cute and super talented girl at a bar last night (she has 200K+ followers on her webcomic Instagram).
I went on her tumblr today and saw that she considers herself asexual. $:-\$

Still worth seeing if you have something. I know a couple people in asexual relationships and they're really satisfied emotionally even if they don't have sex or rarely have sex.

Atramental · « **Reply #9061 on:** December 02, 2018, 08:05:14 PM »

Yeah well... Even though I rarely fuck I still enjoy it and I’ve grown tired of porn.

TEEEPO · « **Reply #9062 on:** December 02, 2018, 08:27:59 PM »

not around you they don't

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #9063 on:** December 02, 2018, 10:19:55 PM »

We can't all have that Exodust big dick energy

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #9064 on:** December 02, 2018, 11:12:40 PM »

Energy sword Sunday is getting out of hand

TEEEPO · « **Reply #9065 on:** December 02, 2018, 11:16:55 PM »

or crippling ocd

Atramental · « **Reply #9066 on:** December 03, 2018, 08:04:44 PM »

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Yay!

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #9067 on:** December 03, 2018, 08:34:17 PM »

Atramental · « **Reply #9068 on:** December 03, 2018, 08:40:57 PM »

Yeah yeah yeah.

Well, I’m proud of myself and feel much better now.

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #9069 on:** December 03, 2018, 08:43:10 PM »

Quote from: Atramental on December 03, 2018, 08:40:57 PM

Yeah yeah yeah.

Well, I’m proud of myself

Narrator: He shouldn't have been

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and feel much better now.

Narrator: Until he realized what he did

Atramental · « **Reply #9070 on:** December 03, 2018, 08:43:47 PM »

What... did I do?

She’s already seeing another guy and he seems like a better fit for her than I was.

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #9071 on:** December 03, 2018, 08:47:43 PM »

Quote from: Atramental on December 03, 2018, 08:43:47 PM

What... did I do?

You mean outside of pedastalling the hell out of an obvious jerk, lowering your self worth to prop hers up, wasting a ton of emotional energy that could have been spent on more worthy endeavors and people. And then continuing to do so for weeks after a forum full of people advised you otherwise, then end it by giving her the victory? You mean outside of that?

Atramental · « **Reply #9072 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:05:03 PM »

toku · « **Reply #9073 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:06:26 PM »

demi · « **Reply #9074 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:07:37 PM »

Literal Cuckold

Atramental · « **Reply #9075 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:11:17 PM »

She wasn’t a good romantic fit for me (she’s poly and I’m fairly monogamous). I was too infatuated to realize that until I did some soul searching this weekend.

Also, I hate the feeling of needing to constantly compete with other guys for a woman’s affection.

Sometimes the winning move is not to play.

edit: Also, my gut instincts were yelling at me to do this for my own sanity.

toku · « **Reply #9076 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:17:00 PM »

shutup

Atramental · « **Reply #9077 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:18:34 PM »

*sigh*

Well, I’m going to get a good nights sleep tonight. That’s for sure.

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #9078 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:21:57 PM »

Quote from: toku on December 03, 2018, 09:17:00 PM

shutup

This is when you know you fucked up. Toku tells you to shut up. It's like screwing up so bad that your sweet little grandma is like , "listen here bitch!"

Atramental · « **Reply #9079 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:25:34 PM »

So you guys just wanted me to suffer in silence?

This mental anguish was throwing off the rest of my game with other women because I was secretly hoping I’d get another chance with p. girl.

I was self sabotaging a bunch of other dates with rookie mistakes.

Atramental · « **Reply #9080 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:28:55 PM »

https://markmanson.net/fuck-yes

Also, you can blame this article for motivating me to do what I did tonight.

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #9081 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:38:17 PM »

I just want to see you happy, Atra, I fear this isn’t the path there

brawndolicious · « **Reply #9082 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:38:49 PM »

She's not poly, she's test-driving at best.

She's more like an emotional Kramer. Borrows your stuff, returns it with an empty tank, and then acts like they're doing you a favor by saying good kisser/bad dicker.

Watch some Rupaul and learn how to self-love.

Atramental · « **Reply #9083 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:40:53 PM »

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on December 03, 2018, 09:38:17 PM

I just want to see you happy, Atra, I fear this isn’t the path there

Time will tell.

Atramental · « **Reply #9084 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:46:21 PM »

We both even said “platonic” at the same time over the phone.

Kara · « **Reply #9085 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:48:31 PM »

Quote from: Atramental on December 03, 2018, 09:46:21 PM

We both even said “platonic” at the same time over the phone.

Yes, it's a commonly used word that has few synonyms.

demi · « **Reply #9086 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:48:46 PM »

should have went for the fat chick

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #9087 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:50:00 PM »

Okay, well, how big of a slice of your life do you think you should give your platonic friend?

Atramental · « **Reply #9088 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:51:55 PM »

Okay, I’m going to bed.

In my mind I did the right and mature thing by setting up boundaries.

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on December 03, 2018, 09:50:00 PM

Okay, well, how big of a slice of your life do you think you should give your platonic friend?

I’m her art buddy. So we go to artsy stuff together. So not very big since notable “art events” only happen in my area once or twice a month.

Huff · « **Reply #9089 on:** December 03, 2018, 09:53:32 PM »

The right boundary was to bounce and block

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #9090 on:** December 03, 2018, 10:09:22 PM »

Ah, so this is what fremdschämen feels like

hampster · « **Reply #9091 on:** December 03, 2018, 10:36:03 PM »

Nothing wrong with a call to clear the air and settle things IMO, as long as this is where the saga ends. Sometimes you just need to get that shit out.

But, I'm worried we'll get shitty reruns all December $:-\$

Rahxephon91 · « **Reply #9092 on:** December 03, 2018, 10:49:05 PM »

At least you did'nt show up at her door with flowers.

zing.

toku · « **Reply #9093 on:** December 03, 2018, 11:29:31 PM »

Quote from: hampster on December 03, 2018, 10:36:03 PM

Nothing wrong with a call to clear the air and settle things IMO, as long as this is where the saga ends. Sometimes you just need to get that shit out.

But, I'm worried we'll get shitty reruns all December $:-\$

you just cursed this thread

Tasty · « **Reply #9094 on:** December 04, 2018, 12:15:57 AM »

Atra, oversharing means you open yourself up to everyone's opinions -- both congrats and critiques. You can't have less of one without less of the other.

Rahxephon91 · « **Reply #9095 on:** December 04, 2018, 12:20:34 AM »

Do you even know this girl that well?

I'm sorry maybe it sounds like the douche move, but seems like you need to cut her out of your life.

I think men and women can be friends. But I don't really think men can be friends with women they pine for.

BIONIC · « **Reply #9096 on:** December 04, 2018, 12:30:31 AM »

Should’ve gotten that neck tat

Space Jam is Canon · « **Reply #9097 on:** December 04, 2018, 12:38:11 AM »

So much self-deception and such little respect for yourself. You set no boundaries here, my friend. Literally all you did was relieve her of initiating the leg work to let you down easy.

You cannot be friends with this girl in your current state. All you're doing is inviting more games, more negative comparisons, and more self-loathing. The only way forward is to sever her from your life. This girl flat-out told you she’s on the rebound and has no interest in settling down with anyone. If you want something exclusive and long-term, this should be a big fucking red flag for you in the future. Chalk it up as a lesson learned and be thankful you dodged the bullet this time.

Most importantly, stop making excuses and go to fucking therapy already.

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #9098 on:** December 04, 2018, 12:40:02 AM »

I think Atra went too far with the Fem Atra thing. Because he's a lot like a lot of my female friends who are good looking, smart, funny but lack the crucial ability to picking a proper and good person for their affections. I believe I told you from the beginning that she seemed someone that wanted to be wanted, but did not want to want. Of course she's going to be happy as friends, she gets the adoration and self-esteem boost and you get shit. It's a no-brainer for her. Really you need to re-assess what it is you look for in someone, if you had read this better and LISTENED you wouldn't be here. Of course, there's the whole Kara read of it that like attracts like too

Raist · « **Reply #9099 on:** December 04, 2018, 01:35:28 AM »

Oh noes, how are you gonna cope with this LDR

Bebpo · « **Reply #9100 on:** December 04, 2018, 02:33:22 AM »

Just re-signed up for Bumble and made a new profile with the photo suggestions from here. Man they've really changed the app, the character limit on your bio is crazy. It's like "here's my photos and a tweet"; essentially just Tinder at that point.
Didn't bother filling in any of the details (religion/politics/height/smoking/drinking/etc...) since that stuff just seems to always go against me when people just look at the stats and swipe.

chronovore · « **Reply #9101 on:** December 04, 2018, 04:42:33 AM »

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on December 03, 2018, 09:21:57 PM

Quote from: toku on December 03, 2018, 09:17:00 PM
shutup
This is when you know you fucked up. Toku tells you to shut up. It's like screwing up so bad that your sweet little grandma is like , "listen here bitch!"

chronovore · « **Reply #9102 on:** December 04, 2018, 04:46:04 AM »

Quote from: Atramental on December 03, 2018, 09:25:34 PM

So you guys just wanted me to suffer in silence?

This mental anguish was throwing off the rest of my game with other women because I was secretly hoping I’d get another chance with p. girl.

I was self sabotaging a bunch of other dates with rookie mistakes.

The point is, I think, that you wanted closure but it was just one more thing you needed her permission to receive.

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #9103 on:** December 04, 2018, 05:59:40 AM »

Quote from: Exodust on December 04, 2018, 04:53:13 AM

Nice to see the writers flub the season finale.

I dunno, Glen's arch is going pretty good IMO.

Also, we are all ignoring 8 Bit Nate's failed MFM.

tiesto · « **Reply #9104 on:** December 04, 2018, 12:16:59 PM »

Quote from: Glen on December 04, 2018, 12:49:34 AM

The lady I’ve started seeing and I really seem to be falling for each other. Things are nice.

Main issue is that she lives on the opposite side of downtown LA from me. But that doesn’t have to be a permanent obstacle.

Is this the longtime acquaintance of yours?

BlueTsunami · « **Reply #9105 on:** December 04, 2018, 12:41:58 PM »

My sister needs to unlock her friend vault and set me up with a honey

Theres one friend of hers that goes to my nieces birthday every year. Blonde white chick, nice big booty with a thin waist and the biggest fucking dimples ive ever seen.

Kara · « **Reply #9106 on:** December 04, 2018, 01:59:52 PM »

You're not as in to her as you say you are if that's a significant hurdle.

shosta · « **Reply #9107 on:** December 04, 2018, 02:04:13 PM »

An hour long drive is bonkers. Completely reasonable to be annoyed at it. You can't get back to your place that same night. Can't do reasonable dinner plans, let alone spontaneous weekday lunch meetup. Seeing each other becomes a daytrip. Probably the most irksome part is that all your weekends are booked for SO time, now, or you show up Friday night, and leave Saturday night, pass out, then you've only got your Sunday left.

Huff · « **Reply #9108 on:** December 04, 2018, 02:22:02 PM »

Bonkers lol child pls

BlueTsunami · « **Reply #9109 on:** December 04, 2018, 02:27:56 PM »

Just a reason to accelerate things so you can crash at her place and vice versa on the regular

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #9110 on:** December 04, 2018, 02:43:25 PM »

Quote from: shosta on December 04, 2018, 02:04:13 PM

An hour long drive is bonkers.

What are you? European?

shosta · « **Reply #9111 on:** December 04, 2018, 02:56:41 PM »

I used to do booty calls to Oakland from Sac. Never again.

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #9112 on:** December 04, 2018, 03:01:14 PM »

Oh sure, for a booty call, that's ridiculous. But this could be love. LOVE SHOSTA!!

BIONIC · « **Reply #9113 on:** December 04, 2018, 03:10:11 PM »

What if Jack’s hubby turns out to be a Bernie Bro?

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #9114 on:** December 04, 2018, 03:10:59 PM »

An hour commute is actually quite calming and nice with a good radio show or podcast

Raist · « **Reply #9115 on:** December 04, 2018, 03:12:30 PM »

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on December 04, 2018, 02:43:25 PM

Quote from: shosta on December 04, 2018, 02:04:13 PM
An hour long drive is bonkers.
What are you? European?

Evidently not, otherwise he could get there in 15mins with public transports

MMaRsu · « **Reply #9116 on:** December 04, 2018, 03:19:50 PM »

Got matched on a Tinder esque dating site with this 21 year old Portugese bombshell O_o

MMaRsu · « **Reply #9117 on:** December 04, 2018, 03:21:28 PM »

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The role of Mara in Buddhism is analogous - but not equal - to Satan in Abrahamic religions, in that she herds men under her shadow of temptation to lead them astray. She is a personification of death (the word mara literally means "death" in Sanskrit) but is also described as a psychological entity -- the voice inside all of us that aspires to attain greater physical riches for our fleshly vessels.

( her onscreen name is Mara )

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The Japanese word "Mara" is slang for "penis"

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #9118 on:** December 04, 2018, 03:36:12 PM »

Quote from: MMaRsu on December 04, 2018, 03:19:50 PM

Got matched on a Tinder esque dating site with this 21 year old Portugese bombshell O_o

(Image removed from quote.)

Looks like she might have a nice Mara for you.

Raist · « **Reply #9119 on:** December 04, 2018, 03:41:29 PM »

Quote from: MMaRsu on December 04, 2018, 03:21:28 PM

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The role of Mara in Buddhism is analogous - but not equal - to Satan in Abrahamic religions, in that she herds men under her shadow of temptation to lead them astray. She is a personification of death (the word mara literally means "death" in Sanskrit) but is also described as a psychological entity -- the voice inside all of us that aspires to attain greater physical riches for our fleshly vessels.

( her onscreen name is Mara )

How sentimentally attached are you to your organs?

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Author Topic: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011 (Read 1425427 times)