Don't forget Lydia Hearst, current wife, as well as exes, friends acknowledging they noticed no signs of an abusive relationship, and the follow-up messages asking for reconciliation. Dykstra's current partner weighed in saying he'd seen evidence of the blacklisting. Dick move for sure. But that's hardly what the driving force of the controversy is about.
I really don't care for the individual case, idk Hardwick or his material and he is more than likely a piece of shit. But I can't help being interested and following these stories, and gauging how public perception on #metoo is changing based on these cases which inhabit a fairly grey area. I think most people are pretty averse to what could be perceived as pretty strong knee jerk reactions to public condemnation. Anecdotally, most women I know have at least questioned whether "metoo has gone too far", mostly in reference to the Aziz case, but this Hardwick thing is doing the rounds now too (though I think most people are only finding out about him now due to this, and it's more of a follow-up bullet point to the Aziz story in the has it gone too far? story arc).