Chris Hardwick
Don't know who this guy is, but-
…Including let him sexually assault me. Regularly. I was expected to be ready for him when he came home from work.
How did this happen? At the beginning of our relationship, I was quite ill often due to my diet, something I’ll get to in a bit. One night he initiated, and I said, “I’m so sorry, can we not tonight? I’m feeling really sick.” He responded, “I just want to remind you, the reason my last relationship didn’t work out was because of the lack of sex.” It was a veiled threat. I succumbed.
Every night, I laid there for him, occasionally in tears. He called it “starfishing”. He thought the whole idea was funny. To be fair, I did go along with it out of fear of losing him. I’m still recovering from being sexually used (not in a super fun way) for three years.
The first time I told him I loved him after 6 months of hoping he’d say it first, his response was (and I quote), “I think I love you too, f****t.”
...How is this "sexual assault?" She let him do it. It sounds like he's a fucking douchebag but that's it.
Seriously, are you dumb, insensitive, or just confused?
When a person stops resisting during rape, does that mean she's complicit?
She's not using the word "rape," but "assault," designating that was was happening was not a mutually desired act. "Starfishing" may be implying sodomy as well, which she may not have desired, but due to the emotionally abusive relationship, she submitted to it.
If you need an object lesson, come bend over in front of me for the next several months, and I will show you.
