I witnessed, and experienced, his behavior firsthand. He got me blackout drunk on Midori Sours (on the company dime).
He and two friends somehow got me back to my room, where he pounced in front of the other guys.
They left after a few moments (also drunk), and one of them-
"He got me blackout drunk" -> They all drank a lot
-told me what he had witnessed the next evening. I had very vague impressions that someone had made out with me
when I woke up that morning, but thought it was a dream. When I asked Chris about it,
he told me that I had eventually refused him. When more of the night came back-
She refused him
-to me, I realized the ONLY reason I was able to refuse him in my blackout stupor was because I was on my period that weekend.
The ONLY reason. (The shame society places on menstruation actually came in handy for once, smdh.)
Other nights, I watched him do the same to-
Because she was on her period. Other nights she had seen the same thing
-other girls, some of whom looked FAR younger than me in my late 20s (at the time, and I have always looked young for my age).
He would disappear with one or another, come back, then come back to me. The entire con.
I did not get drunk with him again, and he was a gentleman-
Weird flex to say she looked young for her age but apparently she was in her late 20's.
She stopped drinking, smart move.
-about my refusals, including the one where I was drunk off my ass, and when he escorted me to the subway
station at 4:30am the morning I left to go home.
She got drunk again and he brought her to the subway. At this point she had seen his behavior with other girls.
Which apparently didn't stop her from getting drunk with the guy?
That kind behavior is what not only kept me in denial about what was actually going on,
but drove me to introduce him to-
oh dear bad decision time!
-one of my best friends, who then endured over a year of heartache, gaslighting,
and emotional abuse at his hands. It was much easier to see then,
and ALL of us who knew what was going on told her to get out.
Eventually, she did, but not before he raged out of a restaurant-
A year of heartache, gaslighting, emotional abuse? What does this mean? Did he cheat, did he call her names?
He already sounded like a asshole alcoholic who wanted to get down with you at this point. Good job of introducing him to your best friends.
ALL OF US KNEW!!! and yet you introduced him to your best friend?
-drunk as fuck (as usual), leaving her behind,
after which point she wandered the downtown streets
of a major convention city late at night, ALONE, looking
for him because she was worried he would get hurt due to how drunk he was.
This was my breaking point.
The breaking point was not getting girls drunk and soliciting them for sexy time but him leaving her friend and that friend looking for the guy light at night alone?
I went to two men I worked with at this convention and reported the situation.
Interestingly enough, they were already discussing his terrible behavior
when I found them together to report it.
With my testimony added, he was blacklisted right then and there.
"Oh hey guys, this total asshole wanted to fuck me but I refused. Then I introduced him to my best friend who's now wandering at night after she was in a bad relationship for a year"
"that asshole lady? Yeah we know he's an asshole"
His behavior didn’t stop, though. If anything, it got worse.
It took years for his employer to finally fire him (I honestly don’t recall the exact reason he was given,
it was a while ago and I wasn’t there personally - this was relayed to me by a friend who also worked there).
How did it get worse? How did she know, I thought she had broken off contact? Another friend who worked 'there'.
He moved to other studios. Other projects. Other conventions until they stopped inviting him on their own accord
(whether due to behavior or relevance, I don’t know).
I pushed him out of my memory, as did my dear friends, and we only discussed our anger and disgust if he-
We pushed it out of our memory because who cares if there's a predator on the lose. At least my friend doesn't have to wander the streets at night anymore?
-happened to come up. I’ve said something to some friends in journalism if he came up.
Emily reached out to me after seeing my tweet to apologize.
For what, I asked her? She didn’t know what he was like and carried no fault in this.
Most didn’t know unless they saw it.
I said something, to some friends. Wow, you have lots of friends. Guess better late than never to tell them.
Still no one said anything except in closed circles.
*I* didn’t say anything except in closed circles to warn people about his behavior.
I have no idea if he’s remotely better than he was then,
but given how protected he’s been from true consequences for his actions, I doubt it.
Protected? He was blacklisted and fired.
But at some point there's only so much you can do to shield you ladies from an asshole if you introduce him to your best friends.
The actions I witnessed myself occurred between 2013 and 2015.
Those I was told by friends who remained around him occurred up until 2017 or 2018.
This was recent. Who knows how long it had been occurring before then;
he was clearly no stranger to doing this when I met him.
And despite all these suspicions he seemed like a nice man to introduce to one of your best friends
