Rahx, As filler said, focus on you and bettering yourself and everything will work out.
I guess an update from me is in order.
Things with the wife are great. We've learned a lot about each other and really are closer than we've been before. We did have a unicorn. She sorta blew up an demanded more time and turned on the passive agressiveness in threatening to blow up if we didn't make more time. Eventually she said we needed to make more time right away and I was like "With spooktober, halloween, thanksgiving and christmas/new years? You need to be more patient. We got kids and jobs and shit. Please be patient." (which she does too, but I guess we just have different priorities) and she essentially put out an ultimatum and I don't do those. So it was a good run, don't regret it, but obviously things for her weren't going great and she grabbed onto whatever she could. Makes me sad for her though, because well adjusted people won't put up with that shit and she doesn't see that.
As to the GF things are still going great. Things are settling. It's been almost a year now. Don't see things changing on this front.