For real though, people say and do contrary things all the time. We can only speculate on why they got together and why they stay together. Maybe she's blackmailing him for being the whistleblower? That theory is just as credible as your "No he actually really does like nonwhites, look!"
In my view, like an ad hominem attack, bringing up a person's family, friends, confidants, etc. is not useful to the actual conversation about a person's words and beliefs.