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Kara

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Re: Struggle Thread mk II - No one likes us, we don't care
« Reply #3960 on: June 03, 2018, 12:43:59 PM »
Until you're at an age where it's biologically impossible or morally questionable to be what society says you're supposed to be you're never out of it, Rah.

Do you really want to be the kind of person your friends turned into though? Or are you grieving the fact that you can't be friends the way that you used to be friends anymore?

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« Reply #3961 on: June 03, 2018, 01:42:53 PM »
Live your life Rahx, not anyone else's idea of one.

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« Reply #3962 on: June 03, 2018, 01:50:15 PM »
It can be hard, especially with social media, to not compare yourself to people. But life doesn't have rules.

Stan Lee created his first successful comic, The Fantastic Four, at age 39.

Samuel L. Jackson only had bit parts (including a sweet-ass stint on TV's Ghostwriter) until he landed Spike Lee's Jungle Fever at age 43.

Darwin didn't publish On the Origin of Species until he was 50.

There's millions of these stories, Rahx. Personal timescales are only in your mind.

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« Reply #3963 on: June 04, 2018, 11:56:33 AM »
I mean guilt can also be a good motivator, but you gotta check that shit.

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« Reply #3964 on: June 04, 2018, 11:57:49 AM »
Also you definitely took the complete wrong thing from my post dufus. :lol

Kara

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« Reply #3965 on: June 05, 2018, 05:34:16 PM »
I traded family for accomplishment and I'd do that shit again in a heartbeat so I'd never like that post, sorry.

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« Reply #3966 on: June 05, 2018, 07:17:39 PM »
there's people that accomplished lots of incredible things and at the end of the day feel like killing themselves
too soon, RIP my handbag queen
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Re: Struggle Thread mk II - No one likes us, we don't care
« Reply #3967 on: June 05, 2018, 07:25:58 PM »
Can't stop binge eating.  Also can't focus on work. 

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Re: Struggle Thread mk II - No one likes us, we don't care
« Reply #3968 on: June 05, 2018, 11:23:01 PM »
Adderall.

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« Reply #3969 on: June 07, 2018, 07:18:19 PM »
Rahx you have massive self-esteem issues. Putting yourself out there might seem like the solution to you but to me it seems like running away from your problems. You need to take that shit head on. Either talk to a shrink or get a book about how to deal with low self-esteem. Working on your self-esteem takes effort so if you're also depressed you're fucked. If you're not depressed, good, get on that shit.

And stop thinking getting action will solve all your problems. If you ever do find someone, you might be better off but you'll also just keep on struggling, albeit in a different way.
I agree with you somewhat. I have some really strange self esteem issues that I don't quite understand. It's not a simple sure lacking confidence. I disagree with your assessment that I was running away.  I thought putting myself out there and trying to live my life was attacking it head on.

But at this point I don't know what I am or what I want. Or even how to get where I want to be.

But I know right now I'm in some void.

I don't have the money or trust for a shrink. Everytime I've tried it it just feels fake and forced which does not work with me. If my shrink was Proffessor X who could read my mind, sign me the fuck up. Talking to a regular shrink always feels like I'm lying or holding back things and faking it. Never feels like I'm saying the reality of what I am. And I hate it.

I really don't know what I'm going to do.

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Re: Struggle Thread mk II - No one likes us, we don't care
« Reply #3970 on: June 07, 2018, 07:20:28 PM »
I tell you what. I understand why people take drugs and drink. I've never felt more at peace then when I was on Molly.

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« Reply #3971 on: June 07, 2018, 08:20:32 PM »
I've been sick for 24 days and it's been a pretty rough ride. Haven't had a bad chest cough like this in forever. Was concerned it was Pneumonia, but haven't had a fever so doesn't seem that bad. But been destroying my chest and lower throat. And that's just the chest part! Had bad flu congestion and nothing works. Haven't been able to hear properly in almost a month and can't talk much either (everyone says I sound really bad). Only have a few useful hours per day, so been working part-time and getting more and more behind.

Even though I try to keep my distance, I've gotten a dozen people everywhere I inhabit sick as well as I'm apparently super contagious. But everyone else seems to get through it in about a week. I'm immuno-suppressed, and that's making this hard af. I'm on a ton of meds too.

Basically feel like this is what a slow death is like.

The worst part about it is that like, people with normal immune systems don't get it. Like I'm talking to a few different women who want to go on a date with me and they're waiting for me to get over this so I can schedule the date. And it's like if after 3 days I'm not all better, they just don't get it. One of them already bailed since I've been dragging her for 2 weeks now. The other will probably bail if I don't get better soon. I'm jealous of people with working immune systems ;_; I hardly ever get really sick like this for so long, but this is fucking up my life atm.

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« Reply #3972 on: June 07, 2018, 08:58:09 PM »
emergen-c and theraflu will help you power through

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« Reply #3973 on: June 07, 2018, 09:14:59 PM »
I'm on that and so much more. Like I am suuuuuper drugged out and still almost coughing up blood and not hearing anything and having no voice and shit for weeks. It just sux. Immuno-Suppresion is awful. It's like I get to be an elderly 80 year old already ;_;

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« Reply #3974 on: June 07, 2018, 09:36:53 PM »
Adderall.

Vyvanse, bitch. It’s actually cleared for use for binge eating disorder.
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« Reply #3975 on: June 08, 2018, 12:57:21 AM »
What you say is true but for work and getting shit done I'd pick adderall any day, and it'll still serve as an appetite suppressant.

If we're really splitting hairs there's too many stims to say which will work best for someone. Like some people do best on methylphenidate, yet I find it immensely unpleasant.

Or maybe we're just fooling ourselves and meth really is THAT good. Meth is the best and anything less is settling, like PD and dollar store pawgs after drunkenly "tuning in to the BBC" that one time in college. idk filler fill us in.

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« Reply #3976 on: June 17, 2018, 04:00:09 AM »
Man, I don't know what's going on with my body and it's kinda scary. Worried that if I don't take care of this soon I might die :\
Been seeing my GP, and they did a single pass chest x-ray which looked normal. So he just has me on some cough syrup/expectorant/painkillers + decongestants.

I'm almost 5 weeks now since I got sick, and still have kinda stuffy head/ear/throat stuff but not much, just lingering a bit and producing mucus drips still. This is annoying but less concerning.
I'm 3 weeks now into my coughing chest cold that happened 2 weeks into my flu. Haven't had one day without tearing up my lungs/throat coughing up phleghm (yellow with mostly clear). I'm fine for like 70% of the day and feel almost healthy, but the scary bits are that when I do start getting that wheezy/clogged breathing and chest coughing hard to get it out, my chest is so sore each cough like black and blue beatup feeling and worse is that after I do a few major coughs my chest burns for a while and I get feverish for 5-10 mins or so and then then fever dies down and after a while the chest burning clears off...until the next coughing session when it happens again and it feels even worse each coughing session in a day.

I feel like what's happening is that I've got bronchitis and my lungs are producing too much phlegm due to inflammation/soreness from all the hard coughing that needs to heal up. Then every day enough phlegm accumulates that I start coughing and it tears things up again and sets off the inflammation again and makes the soreness worse, repeat throughout the day and then when I sleep it heals up some, but not enough to go away so the loop keeps it going. Cough syrups/drops help a little but don't really help because if I've got junk in my chest and am wheezing I need to cough to get the stuff out to breathe.

I also think everytime I cough I do the same thing with damage to my throat, it inflames, gets raw, heals up and repeats. Sometimes when I'm coughing a bunch and hard and there's a lot of burning inflammation in my chest and throat there's a light pink color to my phleghm. Not sure if that counts as blood. Pretty sure if something is bleeding it's my throat and not my lungs because my throat is super raw.

My head stuff still continuing could be a result of all the inflammation going on in my chest/throat causing extra pheligm build up in my sinuses.

Gonna see my doc again once the week starts on Monday. If it wasn't for my chest stuff, I definitely feel 99% healed in terms of the head stuff. That's really minor and I used to be feeling really sick. So I definitely feel I'm at the end/lingering part of the flu virus I had, but I'm just concerned about my lungs/chest because while it's better than it was in the thick of it when my flu was bad, it just doesn't feel like it's improving and everyday is the same loop of "ok, no coughs today, chest feels clear, maybe ok? And then by the evening I start coughing which inflames and causes more coughing and I end up doing a lot of damage at night and going to sleep with burning/soreness in my chest and coughing up light pink". Not sure what kind of chest stuff you can have that doesn't show up on an x-ray, but will talk to my doc about it. I feel like at this point maybe I need to get see a lung specialist.

This is definitely the scariest health issues I've dealt with. I've had major surgeries and stuff and that was scary in that well I hope nothing goes wrong and I die, but the chances of that are low and I knew what was going wrong with me. Not knowing what's going on when it's dealing with major organs like the lungs and trouble breathing, burning/soreness pains for weeks on end is scary!

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« Reply #3977 on: June 17, 2018, 04:38:10 AM »
^ I'm sure it's nothing serious, honestly. But it's easy to feel scared over these things. Have you done any blood tests?

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« Reply #3978 on: June 17, 2018, 09:39:17 AM »
Ger better mun.

Also a struggle sickness post. My liver enzyme numbers keep fluctuating like crazy, still here 9 months later, after I got sick for the first time and was in and out of the hospital for 2 months (and off work sick), they haven't figured out what is wrong despite seeing several specialists, scans and liver biopsies and so on. At least I haven't turned yellow again, but the itching is absolutely killing me. It comes and goes, but when it comes back strong, I can barely sleep for days, sometimes weeks.

The newest theory is acute porphyria, but honestly I stopped believing what they come up with. Everything so far has proven wrong, but at least they can see in my weekly blood tests that I am not crazy. Something is going on.

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« Reply #3979 on: June 19, 2018, 04:22:55 AM »
Thanks, yeah I hope they figure out what's going on with you as well.

I saw a different doc for a 2nd opinion and they seemed to get what was going on much better. Said I had a viral bronchitis with reactive airway disease, basically saying the bronchitis is giving me temporary asthma. So they basically prescribed an inhaler, told me to stick with otc and set my humidifiers to high and keep resting in warm and wet rooms until the virus works its way out of my system. Will see if this works. They put me on a vape-style breathing machine for about 10 mins that seemed to help.

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« Reply #3980 on: June 19, 2018, 08:47:02 AM »
Stepped on an earring when I got out of the shower this morning. Not being super limber first thing in the morning made it a little harder to reach and mop up the site. It only bled hard for about 15 seconds and then just stopped, thankfully. Not a great start to the day.
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« Reply #3981 on: June 19, 2018, 10:23:15 AM »
Thanks, yeah I hope they figure out what's going on with you as well.

I saw a different doc for a 2nd opinion and they seemed to get what was going on much better. Said I had a viral bronchitis with reactive airway disease, basically saying the bronchitis is giving me temporary asthma. So they basically prescribed an inhaler, told me to stick with otc and set my humidifiers to high and keep resting in warm and wet rooms until the virus works its way out of my system. Will see if this works. They put me on a vape-style breathing machine for about 10 mins that seemed to help.

get a rec to see a pulmonologist from your gp if you don't improve but sounds like you found someone to help. some docs are just better and more familiar with different diseases than others.

the machine was a nebulizer fyi
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« Reply #3982 on: June 23, 2018, 05:35:17 PM »
Thanks, yeah I hope they figure out what's going on with you as well.

I saw a different doc for a 2nd opinion and they seemed to get what was going on much better. Said I had a viral bronchitis with reactive airway disease, basically saying the bronchitis is giving me temporary asthma. So they basically prescribed an inhaler, told me to stick with otc and set my humidifiers to high and keep resting in warm and wet rooms until the virus works its way out of my system. Will see if this works. They put me on a vape-style breathing machine for about 10 mins that seemed to help.

get a rec to see a pulmonologist from your gp if you don't improve but sounds like you found someone to help. some docs are just better and more familiar with different diseases than others.

the machine was a nebulizer fyi

So like things have taken a different step. I'm not sure if I'm improving or not. About 4 days ago my chest congestion seemed to clear up completely and while I was still a little congested in one ear, I felt good during the day like at 99% and I could have conversations without coughing and was back to full time working.

But then at night around 1am I started coughing up productive coughs and that lasted for 2-3 hours and I couldn't sleep until 4am. Then the next morning I woke up and was feeling 99% fine and lungs and chest completely clear again...and then at night around 1-2am I started coughing up junk for 2-3 hours and didn't sleep until 4-5am. Repeat.

So every day I'm fine during the day, and even at night (outside I still have ear congestion), but every night I'm getting coughs keeping me up until 4-6am which is only giving me like 4-5 hours sleep and I feel dead tired like I've got insomnia.

I'm going to follow up with the 2nd doc on Monday and see if they want to run some tests, send me to a pulmonologist or try some new meds or something. I've googled around and there's not a lot of information about bronchitis where you are fine during the day but then can't sleep from coughing late at night. I found like one or two posts of other people with like the exact same symptoms from 2009 or something on random forums through google, but no one seemed to follow up and say how they get over it. From a non-doctor layman's perspective, my only guess is that the congestion/drip from my ear adds up throughout the day and at night when I lay down my lungs want to get rid of all the phleghm that's dripped down so I cough for 2-3 hours until I get it all out and then I can sleep. Will see how it goes. 6 weeks in now, 4 weeks on bronchitis :(

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« Reply #3983 on: June 23, 2018, 06:55:07 PM »
To have it persist this long I would say def. start looking at all the areas of your life. Like diet etc. Still get 2nd opinions but this is def. weird.
« Last Edit: June 23, 2018, 07:10:40 PM by toku »

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« Reply #3984 on: June 23, 2018, 07:49:28 PM »
Haven't followed this closely, but have you checked for mold in your bedroom?

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« Reply #3985 on: June 23, 2018, 08:43:37 PM »
Don’t try to google or blog, you’ll just freak yourself out

But it’s been so chronic at this point tha infectious is likely not that main reason. But Rufus is right in start thinking about if there were any changes or issues in yoUr life when this started happening. Let the new doc know
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« Reply #3986 on: June 25, 2018, 06:32:44 PM »
I cannot cosign my brother's student loans this year because I am in default. He's about to start his last year of college.
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« Reply #3987 on: June 25, 2018, 07:18:16 PM »
That may qualify for an exemption if your cosigners financial situation changes mid year. How much of his loans are government versus private?

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« Reply #3988 on: June 25, 2018, 07:29:56 PM »
My father drained his retirement account last year and blew all the money on debt, so my brother didn't qualify for any government loans. It has to be all private this year.
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« Reply #3989 on: June 26, 2018, 01:47:03 AM »
My father drained his retirement account last year and blew all the money on debt, so my brother didn't qualify for any government loans. It has to be all private this year.

First, it's okay to despair. I was the same way where I had no idea what the fuck I was going to do when for very complicated reasons, my parents short-term financial situation changed to where they could not pay my uni costs. The result was that for the first year, I had only loans due to signing up late for financial aid but after that, all my tuition and even some of my living costs were covered by UC Santa Cruz grants. I was lucky enough to be over 21 by the time I transferred though so I was an independent which may have affected my circumstances.

In this case, it sounds like what went on with your father was a very complicated thing and that your brother is going to have to immediately go down to the financial aid and explain his situation. It'll probably be several months before there is any real peace to his situation but his financial situation may allow him to walk out of college with less debt than he originally thought.

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Re: Struggle Thread mk II - No one likes us, we don't care
« Reply #3990 on: July 10, 2018, 04:52:11 AM »
Getting hit with 5000 USD in tax........... even though I haven't had income enough to warrant that. I can't breathe.

In phone line now to complain, I calculated and I don't owe them shit. They better erase this otherwise I don't know what to do with myself.
They want it paid by September and I don't have that kind of money. Fuck me.

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« Reply #3991 on: July 10, 2018, 06:14:21 AM »
Alright. This is hella dumb. The system coverted my input, 2100 became 210000. LMAO.

Hopefully they’ll accept my edit and move on.

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« Reply #3992 on: July 10, 2018, 11:39:18 AM »
Did you file your return? If so it'll have to be amended. (Which is no big deal, happens all the time.)

e: Unless this isn't a U.S. tax return? Unclear to me, so my bad if it's not.

Anyway, sorry to hear--taxes are stressful.
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« Reply #3993 on: July 10, 2018, 11:48:03 AM »
As someone who had to pay 7 grand in taxes for imaginary internet money you have my sympathy.  :doge

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« Reply #3994 on: July 10, 2018, 12:45:33 PM »
Did you file your return? If so it'll have to be amended. (Which is no big deal, happens all the time.)

e: Unless this isn't a U.S. tax return? Unclear to me, so my bad if it's not.

Anyway, sorry to hear--taxes are stressful.
I’m in Norway. Called them and they told me to login and just edit it, then wait for a new updated letter. And if it doesn’t come before the first bill is due I gotta call them again. I should be all good. Surprised they allowed such a huge number without checking it first, but I guess they wouldn’t bother. Just hope they won’t make it a problem for me.

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« Reply #3995 on: July 14, 2018, 09:13:01 PM »
Been bing eating for 2 months straight and feel absolutely sick.  Like I'm on the verge of puking now I'm so full and yet all I want to do is go get more food. 

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« Reply #3996 on: July 14, 2018, 09:44:23 PM »
That's an illness, bro. You're obviously stressed by your program and coping with comfort food.
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« Reply #3997 on: July 14, 2018, 11:38:31 PM »
My shit dominoes pizza isn’t here and I ordered it 50 mins ago
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« Reply #3998 on: July 14, 2018, 11:43:10 PM »
My shit dominoes pizza isn’t here and I ordered it 50 mins ago

The universe is sending you a message.
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« Reply #3999 on: July 14, 2018, 11:49:10 PM »
Go burn down the latest chain pizza restaurant?
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« Reply #4000 on: July 15, 2018, 01:00:28 AM »
My shit dominoes pizza isn’t here and I ordered it 50 mins ago

The universe is sending you a message.
Go burn down the latest chain pizza restaurant?
The following is an absolutely true story. A week after I got dumped in 2016, my friend in the bay got dumped too and so I drove two hours to Oakland for a booty call. I get there in the evening, we get Domino's and booze and watch Little Children. I get frisky near the end but she starts demuring and talking about her ex. I make more moves and she's into it but drunk me says "Want me to stop?" and she says yes. So I do. And I forget what happened next but I think I tried to call my ex or something and she gets up and leaves to go to her boyfriend's to make up. I fall asleep, wake up, and like 30 people had died in a fire in a warehouse around the block from the Domino's we got pizza at (I'm sure you remember the one, TVC). Anyway I actually felt like the universe was trying to send me a message. But I might have misinterpreted it because I went home and gave my cat back to the SPCA.
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« Reply #4001 on: July 15, 2018, 02:00:21 AM »
Ghost Ship. I should see what happened to that asshole owner. Last I heard he was charged for... something last year.
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« Reply #4002 on: July 15, 2018, 02:02:06 AM »
Odd that it came up here now.  There’s recent news:

On July 3, 2018, both pleaded no contest to thirty-six counts of involuntary manslaughter in a plea agreement with prosecutors.

According to their agreement, Almena will be sentenced to nine years in jail, and Harris to six.

IMO, they got off WAY too easy.
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« Reply #4003 on: July 15, 2018, 03:03:13 AM »
WTF. That fire was all over the news for weeks and the building owners were completely aware of the fire hazard.

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« Reply #4004 on: July 17, 2018, 04:45:55 AM »
Goddamned owners raised my rent AGAIN this year. They've been doing this shit every year for the past 3 years at least. :-\

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« Reply #4005 on: July 17, 2018, 06:45:14 AM »
Goddamned owners raised my rent AGAIN this year. They've been doing this shit every year for the past 3 years at least. :-\
Huh, don't you have a set rent written down on your lease? That should protect you from that shit, unless it's specifically says they're allowed to raise it at any time they'd like.

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« Reply #4006 on: July 17, 2018, 07:18:03 AM »
Goddamned owners raised my rent AGAIN this year. They've been doing this shit every year for the past 3 years at least. :-\
Huh, don't you have a set rent written down on your lease? That should protect you from that shit, unless it's specifically says they're allowed to raise it at any time they'd like.

I got my apartment back in 2010. I honestly don't remember what the terms of the lease were. I just know that they held it in place for the first 5-6 years, then started raising it. But I THINK this apartment is rent controlled since each raise hasn't been much more than 3%/yr.

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« Reply #4007 on: July 17, 2018, 07:40:33 AM »
Ask for a copy of your lease.  But you're probably on month to month if you haven't had to sign a new one each year or something.  So that means that yes, they can basically raise it whenever they want barring any local/state laws that limit it outside of the terms of the contract.  Sign a long term lease and lock yourself in for a while.

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« Reply #4008 on: July 17, 2018, 08:56:36 AM »
I want to switch fields but i have too much debt so i have to work for a couple of years cause i picked a degree i ended up not liking. I am 33, i want to get a phd in another semi related field, ill be in my 40s when im done with school if i live that long. I pretty much need to give up on the wife kids shit to make up for my mistake. And i have a poor retired parent to balance in the act and shitty genetics to deal with.  :usacry :usacry :usacry :usacry Should of stayed in Canada. :-\
One of the few things that keeps me going is my 22 year old cousin. Love the kid , he is my role model. Got in at google after grad in dev lol.
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« Reply #4009 on: July 17, 2018, 11:24:08 AM »
+3% rent a year is nothing. :lol

Sometimes I forget there are places where a yearly increase in rent isn't just standard.

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« Reply #4010 on: July 17, 2018, 11:29:56 AM »
Ask for a copy of your lease.  But you're probably on month to month if you haven't had to sign a new one each year or something.  So that means that yes, they can basically raise it whenever they want barring any local/state laws that limit it outside of the terms of the contract.  Sign a long term lease and lock yourself in for a while.

Leases around here auto-renew unless you give them like a two months' heads-up. Month-to-month is super uncommon (and should honestly be the norm, but whatever...)

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« Reply #4011 on: July 17, 2018, 12:05:00 PM »
Ugh.  Auto renewing leases.  The bane of my existence.

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« Reply #4012 on: July 17, 2018, 08:37:58 PM »
Ask for a copy of your lease.  But you're probably on month to month if you haven't had to sign a new one each year or something.  So that means that yes, they can basically raise it whenever they want barring any local/state laws that limit it outside of the terms of the contract.  Sign a long term lease and lock yourself in for a while.

Yeah, you're right. It's been month to month after like the second year I think. But yeah, I should definitely check out the agreement and sign a long term lease since I don't foresee moving out any time soon (my place is pretty great).

+3% rent a year is nothing. :lol


It's the PRINCIPLE! :punch

But seriously, yeah 3% is nothing, thankfully. Especially when I hear horror stories of landlords literally doubling people's rents out of the blue.

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« Reply #4013 on: July 24, 2018, 09:23:35 AM »
oh boy... im not doing so well friends

things get worse before they get better

still positive about the future tho

and i guess i'll have to post about it when the inevitable triumphs occur... i've bitched enough on this forum, i owe this place positive stories :doge

I think venting is good sometimes, but it's good you're staying positive about things.

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« Reply #4014 on: July 24, 2018, 07:25:44 PM »
This has to be a little vague, but: I've been working with a family member on something for the last month, earlier in the month I severely fucked it up, and then I lied to him for the entire month hoping he wouldn't find out. He found out and chewed me out for over an hour on the phone.

Sucks. Had to cancel my date tonight with the cute guy I met last night just cause of how awful I feel right now. And this will probably fuck some things up for the foreseeable future too.

Only thing to do is move forward I guess.

As a silver lining, I've been terrified of him finding out all month, to the point my heart felt a little stressed when I'd think about it, and I guess I don't have to worry about that anymore.

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« Reply #4015 on: July 24, 2018, 08:38:30 PM »
Feels bad to let people down. But you should have just come clean.
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« Reply #4016 on: July 24, 2018, 08:39:22 PM »
The guy has a huge temper which instinctively dissuades me from telling him bad news, but you're right, this wouldn't have been as much of a problem if I had said something earlier.

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« Reply #4017 on: July 24, 2018, 09:07:22 PM »
Don't worry, you'll forget all about it when I'm the alcohol pace car at Bore-Con. :shaq

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« Reply #4018 on: July 24, 2018, 09:57:57 PM »
Don't worry, you'll forget all about it when I'm the alcohol pace car at Bore-Con. :shaq

In the spirit of coming clean, this actually might disrupt my Bore-con plans too. Which makes the situation even more appropriate for this thread. :goty2

Hopefully it all works out but for the next week everything is extremely tight. (But then after that, I'll be more than fine.) :goty

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« Reply #4019 on: July 24, 2018, 10:04:46 PM »
Hoping for the best, Tasty Meat.
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