Author Topic: Struggle Thread mk II - No one likes us, we don't care (Read 637937 times)

Oblivion · « **Reply #3960 on:** July 17, 2018, 04:45:55 AM »

Goddamned owners raised my rent AGAIN this year. They've been doing this shit every year for the past 3 years at least. $:-\$

Valkyrie · « **Reply #3961 on:** July 17, 2018, 06:45:14 AM »

Quote from: Oblivion on July 17, 2018, 04:45:55 AM

Goddamned owners raised my rent AGAIN this year. They've been doing this shit every year for the past 3 years at least. $:-\$

Huh, don't you have a set rent written down on your lease? That should protect you from that shit, unless it's specifically says they're allowed to raise it at any time they'd like.

Oblivion · « **Reply #3962 on:** July 17, 2018, 07:18:03 AM »

Quote from: Valkyrie on July 17, 2018, 06:45:14 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on July 17, 2018, 04:45:55 AM
Goddamned owners raised my rent AGAIN this year. They've been doing this shit every year for the past 3 years at least. $:-\$
Huh, don't you have a set rent written down on your lease? That should protect you from that shit, unless it's specifically says they're allowed to raise it at any time they'd like.

I got my apartment back in 2010. I honestly don't remember what the terms of the lease were. I just know that they held it in place for the first 5-6 years, then started raising it. But I THINK this apartment is rent controlled since each raise hasn't been much more than 3%/yr.

Mupepe · « **Reply #3963 on:** July 17, 2018, 07:40:33 AM »

Ask for a copy of your lease. But you're probably on month to month if you haven't had to sign a new one each year or something. So that means that yes, they can basically raise it whenever they want barring any local/state laws that limit it outside of the terms of the contract. Sign a long term lease and lock yourself in for a while.

warcock · « **Reply #3964 on:** July 17, 2018, 08:56:36 AM »

I want to switch fields but i have too much debt so i have to work for a couple of years cause i picked a degree i ended up not liking. I am 33, i want to get a phd in another semi related field, ill be in my 40s when im done with school if i live that long. I pretty much need to give up on the wife kids shit to make up for my mistake. And i have a poor retired parent to balance in the act and shitty genetics to deal with.

Should of stayed in Canada. $:-\$
One of the few things that keeps me going is my 22 year old cousin. Love the kid , he is my role model. Got in at google after grad in dev lol.

Tasty · « **Reply #3965 on:** July 17, 2018, 11:24:08 AM »

+3% rent a year is nothing.

Sometimes I forget there are places where a yearly increase in rent isn't just standard.

Tasty · « **Reply #3966 on:** July 17, 2018, 11:29:56 AM »

Quote from: Mupepe on July 17, 2018, 07:40:33 AM

Ask for a copy of your lease. But you're probably on month to month if you haven't had to sign a new one each year or something. So that means that yes, they can basically raise it whenever they want barring any local/state laws that limit it outside of the terms of the contract. Sign a long term lease and lock yourself in for a while.

Leases around here auto-renew unless you give them like a two months' heads-up. Month-to-month is super uncommon (and should honestly be the norm, but whatever...)

Mupepe · « **Reply #3967 on:** July 17, 2018, 12:05:00 PM »

Ugh. Auto renewing leases. The bane of my existence.

Oblivion · « **Reply #3968 on:** July 17, 2018, 08:37:58 PM »

Quote from: Mupepe on July 17, 2018, 07:40:33 AM

Ask for a copy of your lease. But you're probably on month to month if you haven't had to sign a new one each year or something. So that means that yes, they can basically raise it whenever they want barring any local/state laws that limit it outside of the terms of the contract. Sign a long term lease and lock yourself in for a while.

Yeah, you're right. It's been month to month after like the second year I think. But yeah, I should definitely check out the agreement and sign a long term lease since I don't foresee moving out any time soon (my place is pretty great).

Quote from: Tasty Meat on July 17, 2018, 11:24:08 AM

+3% rent a year is nothing.

It's the PRINCIPLE!

But seriously, yeah 3% is nothing, thankfully. Especially when I hear horror stories of landlords literally doubling people's rents out of the blue.

Tasty · « **Reply #3969 on:** July 24, 2018, 09:23:35 AM »

Quote from: Dufus on July 24, 2018, 08:47:46 AM

oh boy... im not doing so well friends

things get worse before they get better

still positive about the future tho

and i guess i'll have to post about it when the inevitable triumphs occur... i've bitched enough on this forum, i owe this place positive stories

I think venting is good sometimes, but it's good you're staying positive about things.

Tasty · « **Reply #3970 on:** July 24, 2018, 07:25:44 PM »

This has to be a little vague, but: I've been working with a family member on something for the last month, earlier in the month I severely fucked it up, and then I lied to him for the entire month hoping he wouldn't find out. He found out and chewed me out for over an hour on the phone.

Sucks. Had to cancel my date tonight with the cute guy I met last night just cause of how awful I feel right now. And this will probably fuck some things up for the foreseeable future too.

Only thing to do is move forward I guess.

As a silver lining, I've been terrified of him finding out all month, to the point my heart felt a little stressed when I'd think about it, and I guess I don't have to worry about that anymore.

Tasty · « **Reply #3971 on:** July 24, 2018, 08:39:22 PM »

The guy has a huge temper which instinctively dissuades me from telling him bad news, but you're right, this wouldn't have been as much of a problem if I had said something earlier.

Kara · « **Reply #3972 on:** July 24, 2018, 09:07:22 PM »

Don't worry, you'll forget all about it when I'm the alcohol pace car at Bore-Con.

Tasty · « **Reply #3973 on:** July 24, 2018, 09:57:57 PM »

Quote from: Kara on July 24, 2018, 09:07:22 PM

Don't worry, you'll forget all about it when I'm the alcohol pace car at Bore-Con.

In the spirit of coming clean, this actually might disrupt my Bore-con plans too. Which makes the situation even more appropriate for this thread.

Hopefully it all works out but for the next week everything is extremely tight. (But then after that, I'll be more than fine.)

TVC15 · « **Reply #3974 on:** July 24, 2018, 10:04:46 PM »

Hoping for the best, Tasty Meat.

Tasty · « **Reply #3975 on:** July 24, 2018, 10:05:57 PM »

Quote from: TVC 15 on July 24, 2018, 10:04:46 PM

Hoping for the best, Tasty Meat.

Thanks boo. Me too. I'll know for sure one way or another by the end of tomorrow. Hoping everything goes our way...

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #3976 on:** July 24, 2018, 10:06:21 PM »

A little catharsis can be good every now and then Tasty. Hang in there. I love you.

Tasty · « **Reply #3977 on:** July 24, 2018, 10:24:05 PM »

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on July 24, 2018, 10:06:21 PM

A little catharsis can be good every now and then Tasty. Hang in there. I love you.

Thanks.

Kara · « **Reply #3978 on:** July 24, 2018, 10:58:10 PM »

You got this, Andy-kun.

Tasty · « **Reply #3979 on:** July 25, 2018, 12:24:04 AM »

Mr Gilhaney · « **Reply #3980 on:** July 26, 2018, 09:58:24 PM »

Beginning jaundice again, just like I had September last year, still without being much wiser to what is actually doing this to me. Liver enzymes spiking up and down, and worst of all, the intense itching that makes me unable to get any rest at all. Back to medication and phenobarbitals in the slight hope of it calming me down enough at night to sleep. If it isn't the itching, it's the thoughts of what it can be. They tested me for everything in the fucking world at this point, scanned me with everything they got, and I am still nervous it is some kind of cancer or whatever. I can barely go out shopping some food as it is right now, so thankful I got my mother living close by. But also sucks to be dependent on her as much as I have been, especially last year when she took a month off work just to take care of me.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #3981 on:** July 30, 2018, 07:06:30 PM »

Had a social anxiety attack in the middle of a meeting while giving a talk. I'm incredibly embarrassed.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #3982 on:** July 31, 2018, 01:09:05 AM »

Five beers in and I am still deeply ashamed.

Joe Molotov · « **Reply #3983 on:** July 31, 2018, 01:29:28 AM »

Did you puke?

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #3984 on:** July 31, 2018, 01:35:53 AM »

Fake yawned so I wouldn't cry.

Valkyrie · « **Reply #3985 on:** July 31, 2018, 05:48:13 AM »

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on July 30, 2018, 07:06:30 PM

Had a social anxiety attack in the middle of a meeting while giving a talk. I'm incredibly embarrassed.

Are you okay now? That shit SUCKS. Don’t be embarrassed though, probably easier said than done but if anyone even noticed you’re most likely the only one who will remember it ever happened.

agrajag · « **Reply #3986 on:** July 31, 2018, 05:50:52 AM »

Sorry brehs, hang in there.

TVC15 · « **Reply #3987 on:** August 02, 2018, 12:51:46 AM »

Been struggling with chronic pain the past few months, and the medicine I’ve been using to manage the pain is becoming ineffective. From what I understand, the only other drug for my situation is an opiate drug that they probably won’t prescribe me/insurance won’t pay for.

Talking to a doctor about it tomorrow, but his preliminary email response to my initial question wasn’t very promising.

Valkyrie · « **Reply #3988 on:** August 08, 2018, 05:47:13 PM »

Mostly just posting this to vent/get it off my mind.

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toku · « **Reply #3989 on:** August 08, 2018, 06:18:27 PM »

My grandma was like that towards the end and it drove my sister and mom apart a bit. My sister couldn't understand why mom was treating it like she was basically already gone but it was like dealing with an entirely different person already, a stranger. Just be sure to be there for both of them, you have to be patient with her and your mother but don't forget to seek support for yourself as well. It hurts to see now but you'll be grateful for the small moments you guys share now, later.

Valkyrie · « **Reply #3990 on:** August 08, 2018, 06:40:40 PM »

Thanks for the kind words.

Sorry to hear about your grandma. :'(

It really helps that I live a 3 minutes walk from their house, so I can help them with cleaning, cooking and grocery shopping when I have time. We're applying for at-home help for them a couple times a week, which should be good because they can't keep their place clean anymore, and my grandma has problems showering by herself etc. I just try to spend as much time with them as I can tbh.

My grandma is really stubborn, she got a walker but she refuses to use it, which doesn't make things better. She always pride herself in her athletic past, and will hide the walker in a room whenever she has guests over.

agrajag · « **Reply #3991 on:** August 08, 2018, 06:43:42 PM »

That sucks, Val. My grandma was misdiagnosed with schizophrenia her whole life (she was actually bi-polar) and my mom had to take care of her since an early age. We've had some crazy situations to deal with, so I know what you're going through.

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #3992 on:** August 16, 2018, 11:39:35 PM »

Had to put my cat down today. He was an asshole. But he was my asshole. $:-\$

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #3993 on:** August 16, 2018, 11:56:13 PM »

sorry dude

Bebpo · « **Reply #3994 on:** August 16, 2018, 11:56:31 PM »

Oh no. I'm sorry for your loss

Assimilate · « **Reply #3995 on:** August 17, 2018, 12:01:40 AM »

why are hometown friends so fucking nasty? Envious? hateful fucks?

Everything is a comparison/competition. Who is doing better than whom. Who has a better job. Who is making money. Who isn't making money. Oh he turned into a loser. Oh she turned into an alcoholic. Oh he's unemployed. Oh she hates her husband. On and on and on and on.

I don't get it. I don't meet anyone else so negative than my childhood/highschool "friends"

I can't reach out to anyone back at home anymore. It's sad. Even if i need something i can't fathom dealing with any of them.

TVC15 · « **Reply #3996 on:** August 17, 2018, 12:03:52 AM »

Asshole person in the unit above me left their sink running all day while I was at work and fucked up a large portion of my tiny apartment.

Kara · « **Reply #3997 on:** August 17, 2018, 12:17:54 AM »

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on August 16, 2018, 11:39:35 PM

Had to put my cat down today. He was an asshole. But he was my asshole. $:-\$

Sorry, duder.

agrajag · « **Reply #3998 on:** August 17, 2018, 12:22:23 AM »

Sorry Ronito

zomgee · « **Reply #3999 on:** August 17, 2018, 11:41:07 AM »

I'm sorry about your asshole.

agrajag · « **Reply #4000 on:** August 17, 2018, 11:47:39 AM »

Quote from: Kara on August 17, 2018, 12:17:54 AM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on August 16, 2018, 11:39:35 PM
Had to put my cat down today. He was an asshole. But he was my asshole. $:-\$

Sorry, duder.

Quote from: zomgee on August 17, 2018, 11:41:07 AM

I'm sorry about your asshole.

This could be a generic response to TVC

agrajag · « **Reply #4001 on:** August 17, 2018, 11:48:13 AM »

Quote from: agrajag on August 17, 2018, 11:47:39 AM

Quote from: Kara on August 17, 2018, 12:17:54 AM
Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on August 16, 2018, 11:39:35 PM
Had to put my cat down today. He was an asshole. But he was my asshole. $:-\$

Sorry, duder.
Quote from: zomgee on August 17, 2018, 11:41:07 AM
I'm sorry about your asshole.

This could be a generic response to TVC

Or the Taco Bell thread

Kara · « **Reply #4002 on:** August 17, 2018, 01:43:28 PM »

TVC15 · « **Reply #4003 on:** August 17, 2018, 09:31:49 PM »

My apartment is dry but it already smells moldy

No cleaners until Monday. No people to even look at the roof until Tuesday.

Tasty · « **Reply #4004 on:** August 18, 2018, 11:49:56 AM »

Lost my phone while drunk in an Uber last night.

Valkyrie · « **Reply #4005 on:** August 18, 2018, 05:28:40 PM »

Quote from: Tasty Meat on August 18, 2018, 11:49:56 AM

Lost my phone while drunk in an Uber last night.

Youtuber: "UBER DRIVER almost KIDNAPPED me after STEALING MY PHONE"

Tasty · « **Reply #4006 on:** August 28, 2018, 12:24:21 AM »

Was having a drink with friends in the fenced-off outside area of my fave bar. Sun went down beautifully, but after it got dark some jackass drunk came around threatening to burn down our "cigarillo bar." Bartenders called the cops, there was a pair of plaincloth cops across the street that decided to do jack shit and watch "the fireworks" so to speak.

Drunk eventually fucked off after an hour of this shit.

Great stuff.

Atramental · « **Reply #4007 on:** August 28, 2018, 12:26:47 AM »

JayDub still bitter about fetuses.

smh

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #4008 on:** August 28, 2018, 09:14:37 PM »

Sorry dude. 14 years is a long life. Bet it was a great life.

Valkyrie · « **Reply #4009 on:** August 29, 2018, 01:27:05 AM »

Quote from: Jack Remington on August 28, 2018, 08:19:33 PM

My favorite cat is going to be put to sleep tomorrow. He's 14 and has a liver condition. I'm taking a few hours off work to go with my mom to the vet when it happens. This shit sucks.

Kiss him from us and tell him we love him and appreciate him.

TVC15 · « **Reply #4010 on:** August 29, 2018, 04:19:38 AM »

Quote from: Jack Remington on August 28, 2018, 08:19:33 PM

My favorite cat is going to be put to sleep tomorrow. He's 14 and has a liver condition. I'm taking a few hours off work to go with my mom to the vet when it happens. This shit sucks.

Sorry, Jack

Cerveza mas fina · « **Reply #4011 on:** August 30, 2018, 02:11:11 AM »

Well this pregnancy didnt work out

Went for a scan and it was a bit too little to tell, but then my wofe started bleeding last night so guess thats it.

So far were on 3 pregnancies and 1 kid. Hope next one is kid 2.

Edit: apparently bleeding stopped so who knows whats going on

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #4012 on:** August 30, 2018, 02:45:04 AM »

sorry dude

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #4013 on:** August 30, 2018, 02:48:56 AM »

that's 3 'sorry dude's on just this page. can we get a few dozen posts talking about mildly inconvenient human interactions as a cleans?

Cerveza mas fina · « **Reply #4014 on:** August 30, 2018, 02:53:25 AM »

My phone didnt charge overnight?

zomgee · « **Reply #4015 on:** August 30, 2018, 04:33:06 AM »

sorry dude

Fifstar · « **Reply #4016 on:** August 30, 2018, 06:09:22 AM »

Sorry man

agrajag · « **Reply #4017 on:** August 30, 2018, 11:55:04 AM »

Sorry Lager.

TVC15 · « **Reply #4018 on:** September 03, 2018, 07:42:51 PM »

Just noticed my favorite pair of SeaVees ripped

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #4019 on:** September 03, 2018, 07:45:50 PM »

Have to give a talk tomorrow. Not really prepared.

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