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[shosta]

My legs hirt from all the runnning I do and the idea of anal sex is not too pleaseing.

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[Atramental]

What should I say?

I don’t want to give excuses but not having sex for close to 2 years, nerves, and being dead dog tired definitely did not help. 

[Beezy]

You talk aboutsex when sex is happening. You eat breakfast old when it’s breakfest time.

I’m so fucked.

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[Raist]

What should I say?

I don’t want to give excuses but not having sex for close to 2 years, nerves, and being dead dog tired definitely did not help. 

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[BisMarckie]

What should I say?

I don’t want to give excuses but not having sex for close to 2 years, nerves, and being dead dog tired definitely did not help. 

Don't fret it too much atra. I had it happen to me once,too. There is no point in even thinking about that going forward. If you get a second chance, you'll be fine. 

[Tasty]

Rahx, I know for sure how much it sucks not completely knowing your sexual identity. Few things manage to take as much wind out of your sails. But it's a question only you can answer, and unfortunately, there's no shortcuts there. Just a lot of necessary introspection.

[HardcoreRetro]

What should I say?

I don’t want to give excuses but not having sex for close to 2 years, nerves, and being dead dog tired definitely did not help. 

Don't fret it too much atra. I had it happen to me once,too. There is no point in even thinking about that going forward. If you get a second chance, you'll be fine. 

He could've at least gone with a "playing possum" joke.

[chronovore]

Guess who’s sleeping with possum girl tonight.

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me

[close]

Well, at least you got a taste of her possum.

[Atramental]

At least afterwards we cuddled up & fell asleep together, took a shower together this morning, and she seemed somewhat down to see me again (maybe not in the bedroom but at least out in public).

[CatsCatsCats]

Don’t sweat it, bro, probably the result of you hyping up the importance of the situation not letting you relax and get into it

[shosta]

Don't mention it at all. She likely thinks the problem is her.

[Mupepe]

Get it hard now and send her a pic of it and say “see! It works!”

[Atramental]

My favorite part of last night was when she "accidentally" fell on me while I was sitting on her couch.
I caught her. Her face right in mine. We began making out. I stroked her hair and fondled her boobs.

She was wearing a cute sloth onesie with the zipper down enough to reveal her breasts.

She was surprised with how quickly I shifted from being totally platonic to being very sexual. "Where is this coming from?", was her words. I told her I just needed some kind of green light and that she brought it out of me.

I can still see her bright blue eyes staring up at mine while we were cuddled up next to each other on her couch "watching" Netflix.

We made out some more and she bit my lower lip a couple of times. I actually liked that.

There's so many other details and things that happened in such a relatively short amount of time. I won't bother writing them down since they don't really add anything but I will try and cherish this memory despite my own shortcomings.

[shosta]

 

[BlueTsunami]

Fucking Atra, living the dream. 2018 aint done.yet.

[brawndolicious]

Whatever you want with her (friendship/dating), an anxiety-addled boner is probably not part of your plans. Just be transparent with her rather than making assumptions about what she's thinking.

I'm personally thinking this will be a fling for a few months where you both learn a lot about yourselves while having good sex.

[BlueTsunami]

So nothing exciting like Atra but this woman on Instagram followed me. I got curious and started going through her feed. She's the female version of me. Depressive, melancholic, dark, avid reader, into photography, loves her solitude, grey days. Also a loner. She seems to live near Damascus,  Syria. I'm 99% sure it ain't a catfish but who knows. I'm despondent over the futility of even attempting anything.

[BlueTsunami]

As far as your anxiety slug, Atra. If it were me I'd be absolutely honest with her. When a moment comes where the topic of last night comes up i would confess I was into her for a while now and the suddeness of it all was overwhelming. That youre happy it happened and that you hope to continue being with her this way.

[Raist]

took a shower together this morning

Dude.

[Atramental]

took a shower together this morning

Dude.

She had work this morning but I made sure to brush my boner against her when we were trading positions.

I kissed her two times in the shower as well.

[CatsCatsCats]

I’m cautiously optimistic about this for you, worried my sweet Atra gun fall too hard

[BlueTsunami]

Agree with Cats. This is all a heady brew but ya gotta watch for the hidden knife. This may be just a fun hookup for her. But you seemed down and out.just last week. Lets put it all on black.

[Atramental]

Oh. This music video she posted on Facebook hours before we met up makes much more sense now.



 

[Atramental]

So I’m basically in full acceptance that I’m at her mercy from this point on.

Also, she’s given me so many chances up until this point. Perhaps this trend will continue.

[Rahxephon91]

I did t see that while drunk. Good job Atra.

[I'm a Puppy!]

After months of languishing the season has not only picked up, but it's on a tear. It's almost as if the thread is self-aware and is like "Nothing much has happened this year and this year's almost over, better kick it into overdrive!"

Bless up, y'all!
 

[mormapope]

This season has so much fan service, everyone’s least favorite character died and the good guys are getting their dicks wet.

Its given me hope for my tainted heart. Falling in love with and fucking suicidal women that erratically throw you out of their life put a good dent in me, and I've learned my lesson.

Hopefully. 

Woman I've been texting for month seems sane, I'll be sad if its just a waste of time, but I'm fine putting very little effort into pussy as of late.

[naff]

I just got hit on at the bar by a dude a work with. Because he was oretty sure I was gay,

Am I? Who fucking knows, but everyone else thinks Im gay so I must be.

i think its prob more that you're cute, have a petite frame and i imagine you give off sub vibes so dudes wanna dom you. give it a crack maybe 

[Bebpo]

Tomorrow I'm planning on using the holiday to work on my dating profiles. Would like advice. Right now I've got a bumble, CmB, OKC. Anything else I should be on for starters?

[tiesto]

Tomorrow I'm planning on using the holiday to work on my dating profiles. Would like advice. Right now I've got a bumble, CmB, OKC. Anything else I should be on for starters?

Match, since that was the one that ended up actually working for me.

[Bebpo]

Ok, gonna start on this stuff. The main problem I have I think (and why I might be single forever lol) is that I completely hate doing this. Like making a profile and picking photos and figuring out what to write and messaging people and early chit chat is like pulling teeth or writing essays in high school. I have an extreme aversion to it and I'd rather be doing anything else.

Once I actually get to a physical date with a person it's cool. I actually like real dating (aka not texting/messaging on dating sites for days) and everything from the first date on is something I get excited about if I like the person. But goddamn it's such a colossal amount of work to get to those. As I get older and have less energy, I'm just like I could spend the next 1-2 hours messaging all these people back, or I could just chill and play videogames and the latter is way more appealing.

Life is short! Wasting hours on stuff you hate and you're not getting paid for is a waste of life in hopes that it'll lead to a relationship which then is a (usually) good thing. Like the last girl I dated a month or so ago dragged on in messages and dates for a month before it fell apart. That was a lot of time wasted that could have been more enjoyable or more creatively spent :|

Not really sure how to get past this aversion, other than to just keep at it. Sometimes online dating feels like the definition of insanity thing of doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

[Bebpo]

So the first thing to start is I need really good pictures because that's all a lot of people care about initially. I'm gonna gather up all potential pictures and put them in a folder and ask y'all for tips on which ones I should use.

Basically I plan to crowdsource my dating profile from The Bore because I've tried everything else at this point, might as well give this a shot and see if you guys can get me married.

[shosta]

definitely use that one we took in taco bell

[Bebpo]

definitely use that one we took in taco bell

I've been using the picture of the two of us in all my dating profiles 

[shosta]

no wonder you're having issues!

[Bebpo]

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[Am_I_Anonymous]

taking it on himself to do "what's best" without my agency) doesn't fit my definition of a romantic relationship or a friendship.

Did you perhaps sign some paperwork making him your legal custodian/guardian?

I only called him daddy a few times :'(

A girl called me daddy a whole bunch of times recently. Kind of took me out of the moment and made me think she had an Electra complex or something.

Have had that happen. When you get to be my age it's a hard pill to swallow, trust me ;-)

[Bebpo]

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[Bebpo]

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[VomKriege]

Probably will be light on updates from now on. We're really into each other and in tune. Things will flow from there and we'll see how long it will last but she did a lot for my self confidence already.

[Raist]

Bebpo. Have you considered a neck tattoo?

[I'm a Puppy!]

Bebpo, do you like getting choked during sex?

[Rahxephon91]

I just got hit on at the bar by a dude a work with. Because he was oretty sure I was gay,

Am I? Who fucking knows, but everyone else thinks Im gay so I must be.

i think its prob more that you're cute, have a petite frame and i imagine you give off sub vibes so dudes wanna dom you. give it a crack maybe 

But I’m not gay. I want to know what these vibes are, because it keeps happening. I even asked peeps in real life and they weren’t surprised he thought I was gay.

[Atramental]

I’m totes not gay and i got propositioned once
http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=45907.msg2518601#msg2518601

Don’t sweat it, Rah.

[EightBitNate]

I just got hit on at the bar by a dude a work with. Because he was oretty sure I was gay,

Am I? Who fucking knows, but everyone else thinks Im gay so I must be.

i think its prob more that you're cute, have a petite frame and i imagine you give off sub vibes so dudes wanna dom you. give it a crack maybe 

But I’m not gay. I want to know what these vibes are, because it keeps happening. I even asked peeps in real life and they weren’t surprised he thought I was gay.

I think mannerisms play a part in it. I’m incredibly weak so I often sag my hands similar to how women/gay men do. Not really something I’m conscious of but I notice when other guys do it.

[EightBitNate]

Just had what was probably the most awkward sexual experience of my life (worse than getting caught jerking off by my sister).

Had a mmf I organized. Neither of them knew each other beforehand. Just got back from it and I’ve never ever felt more ignored in my life. Don’t want to get into specifics but everything she did with him was super enthusiastic, and I felt like I almost had to force myself on her. Went on for like 30 minutes and I only actually did stuff for like 4 minutes. I drove him so I couldn’t even walk out. Brought up feelings of inadequacy I haven’t felt in a while :/

[shosta]

rekt

[Bebpo]

Bebpo. Have you considered a neck tattoo?

Bebpo, do you like getting choked during sex?

Not sure if something's going over my head or my plan to crowdsource my dating profile is just failing  :'(

[Bebpo]

Also, of course the irony of the day when I put all that out there to get started and get serious about online dating, one of my matches that hadn't gone much started going good tonight. Cool person, right age range, cute. Maybe I won't need to redo all my profiles...

[I'm a Puppy!]

Bebpo. Have you considered a neck tattoo?

Bebpo, do you like getting choked during sex?

Not sure if something's going over my head or my plan to crowdsource my dating profile is just failing  :'(

[Raist]

Bebpo. Have you considered a neck tattoo?

Bebpo, do you like getting choked during sex?

Not sure if something's going over my head or my plan to crowdsource my dating profile is just failing  :'(

Well to be fair you didn't make it easy with those pictures. Should have had a spreadsheet with identifiers and stuff.

Anyway, I'd suggest these:

- The one where you imitate that weird pink man statue thing. Cause it shows you're funny.

- The one where you wear a leather jacket, in a park/garden or something. Cause it shows you're dreamy.

- The B/W one (only one as far as I can tell? In a car). Cause it shows you're a good looking cat.

- The one where you're preparing wasabi (?). Cause it shows you're a foodie.

- The one in the Moulin Rouge. Cause it shows you like travelling and you have taste and class. (and like bewbs).


That's my take. As for profile, sorry can't help, that stuff is beyond me.

P.S: maybe the one with shosta? I'm sure some women are into single dads.

[Bebpo]

Thanks, that's actually really helpful.

[chronovore]

Bebpo. Have you considered a neck tattoo?

Bebpo, do you like getting choked during sex?

Not sure if something's going over my head or my plan to crowdsource my dating profile is just failing  :'(

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On the other hand, I am a conjurer of cheap tricks:

[HardcoreRetro]

Atra, I looked up which of the 50 girls is Possum girl. She got wildlife rehab on her profile.

Tell her you need help with a one-eyed trouser snake.

[CatsCatsCats]

Lol she pops up in my suggested friends

[TEEEPO]

poor atra

[Atramental]

We’re not interacting with each other. Which is fine.

I think it’s good for us to take some time away from each other and recalibrate/smother our feelings if this friendship is going to survive.

[CatsCatsCats]

[Atramental]

I think her biggest fear is that she doesn’t want to get attached to one person ever again since she was for 4 years and then he obliterated her heart.

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[hampster]

Betting she fucks you once, but only once, insists on remaining friends, and it destroys you psychologically

Don't let shosta win atra