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[Atramental]

Well, I’m talking to other girls so I’ll be alright.

[shosta]

It was a joke, I don't want to be right 

[Atramental]

It was a joke, I don't want to be right 

Your wizard powers are too strong, mah boy. 

[Atramental]

I was legit thinking about changing my first name to my middle name Sorry, only registered users can see this content. Please Login or Register. in order to appeal to possum girl more but I can only imagine what kind of shit I would get from my parents. 

[CatsCatsCats]

It’s a p cool name tho

[Mr. Gundam]

-I probably do want to have kids (I could do without as well, but as I get older I'm leaning off the fence a bit more towards having them). So I don't want to date people older than about 32 (I'm 37). My ideal dating range is like 27-32. fwiw like 90% of all my matches on dating apps currently are women 37-43. No one younger than me seems to like my current profiles, only older women.

Why are you so opposed to dating someone your own age? Women are having kids older nowadays and it's just fine. Plus I can't imagine dating a 27 year old at this point in my life (I'm also 37).

[shosta]

You can't when the baby is dead

[naff]

-I probably do want to have kids (I could do without as well, but as I get older I'm leaning off the fence a bit more towards having them). So I don't want to date people older than about 32 (I'm 37). My ideal dating range is like 27-32. fwiw like 90% of all my matches on dating apps currently are women 37-43. No one younger than me seems to like my current profiles, only older women.

i don't really know anything about serious dating profiles. my feeling is your profile is a little too sincere and intense for the younger crowd. maybe try and convey your punk spirit with a little more irreverence.

[Atramental]

Speaking of babies:
https://imgur.com/a/cctnX6w

I didn’t call her baby directly (my exhausted brain called her “goddess” when she asked me what she was to me while my head was still in between her legs. whoops. ) but I posted a song on tumblr (she got me back into it) Sunday evening that I was vibing out to. I guess she took it the wrong way. 

[Mupepe]

Should have answered with something like “my little cum bucket” or “big sister”. Something less weird than goddess.

[thisismyusername]

-I probably do want to have kids (I could do without as well, but as I get older I'm leaning off the fence a bit more towards having them). So I don't want to date people older than about 32 (I'm 37). My ideal dating range is like 27-32. fwiw like 90% of all my matches on dating apps currently are women 37-43. No one younger than me seems to like my current profiles, only older women.

Why are you so opposed to dating someone your own age? Women are having kids older nowadays and it's just fine. Plus I can't imagine dating a 27 year old at this point in my life (I'm also 37).

Probably for health reasons. Past the age of like 27-30 the chances of birth defects go up.

https://www.parenting.com/article/pregnancy-at-20-30-40

[Atramental]

Yikes

Whole situations seems incredibly childish.

My thoughts exactly.

Oh well.

I’ll lay low and build myself into a better person that she could only dream of having. 

[Atramental]

And my pussy eating skills belong to someone who wants to be my ride & die bich. 

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i had her squirming

[close]

[Atramental]

Anyways, this Canadian (she lives in the US now) girl seems friendly.
https://imgur.com/a/JT2LiKl

Maybe I’ll finally get to go to Canada and visit Arvie. 

[Rahxephon91]

Well I had sex today.






With a girl.

[Atramental]

Well I had sex today.






With a girl.

Deets 

[shosta]

christmas early this year

[Atramental]

Yikes

Whole situations seems incredibly childish.

Glen chatted me up about this and said not to assume things but... we shall see.

I may shoot her a text Saturday or Sunday to put some feelers out.

[shosta]

That song's pretty good

[naff]

Send her an up2? 

[I'm a Puppy!]

This season took forever to pay off, but pay off it has
- do you like being choked?
- meth girl
- rahx closes the deal
- possum girl
- calling her goddess
- neck tattoos
- dreamy bebpo

Jesus y'all. I'm getting the vapors

[Cryo]

All it took for them to get laid was Assimilate getting banned.

[Atramental]

She liked one of my Facebook posts.

And I just commented on one of her’s.

https://imgur.com/a/T2NDLQt

Either this is cute or I deserve to be lobotomized. 

[hampster]

This season took forever to pay off, but pay off it has
- do you like being choked?
- meth girl
- rahx closes the deal
- possum girl
- calling her goddess
- neck tattoos
- dreamy bebpo

Jesus y'all. I'm getting the vapors

Don't forget your second gf 

November sweeps!

[I'm a Puppy!]

Oh and 8bits failed mfm where he gave the guy a ride to it so he had to stay and watch

Let's not forget that!

[Rahxephon91]

Well I had sex today.






With a girl.

Deets 

Theres really nothing to say. It was just a slightly chubby nerdy girl I met off reddit. She was nice and it was fun. She wasn’t excactly my type, but I still did it and it was a good time. I wish I could get with women I found actually attractive though as I think I’d be into it more.

[Atramental]

Well I couldn't get hard for a girl I practically worship so... 

[Rahxephon91]

Theres really nothing to say. It was just a slightly chubby nerdy girl I met off reddit. She was nice and it was fun. She wasn’t excactly my type, but I still did it and it was a good time. I wish I could get with women I found actually attractive though as I think I’d be into it more.

So a cheap prostititue or do those "guy looking for BJ" posts actually bring random girls to the yard?

I guess for once the latter worked.

[shosta]

slightly chubby

[Raist]

Well I couldn't get hard for a girl I practically worship so... 

It's a mystery as to how that happened.

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[close]

[Bebpo]

-I probably do want to have kids (I could do without as well, but as I get older I'm leaning off the fence a bit more towards having them). So I don't want to date people older than about 32 (I'm 37). My ideal dating range is like 27-32. fwiw like 90% of all my matches on dating apps currently are women 37-43. No one younger than me seems to like my current profiles, only older women.

Why are you so opposed to dating someone your own age? Women are having kids older nowadays and it's just fine. Plus I can't imagine dating a 27 year old at this point in my life (I'm also 37).

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[I'm a Puppy!]

Bebpo, I gotta admit, I admire your meticulousness when it comes to dating.
Not saying I agree, but I do admire it.

[BlueTsunami]

Well I had sex today.






With a girl.

I'm sorry Rahx but a loose pink sock heavily sprayed with Coco Mademoiselle does not count

[I'm a Puppy!]

Well I had sex today.






With a girl.

I'm sorry Rahx but a loose pink sock heavily sprayed with Coco Mademoiselle does not count

Depends on your definition of "loose pink sock"

[BlueTsunami]

Well I had sex today.






With a girl.

I'm sorry Rahx but a loose pink sock heavily sprayed with Coco Mademoiselle does not count

Depends on your definition of "loose pink sock"

 

Thinking about it I've had a couple of loose pink socks over the years 

[Atramental]

She liked one of my Facebook posts.

And I just commented on one of her’s.

https://imgur.com/a/T2NDLQt

Either this is cute or I deserve to be lobotomized. 

She liked it today.

So, I think we’re gonna be okay brehs. 

[skullstorm]

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[Atramental]

Instead of playing these “will she like my Facebook post?” games with a woman you’ve already been intimate with, you could just message her.

Being aloof is how I got to get in bed with her in the first place.

Unlike the other guy she was with for like two weeks haha...

Motherfucker was sending her book length texts trying to explain to her why they were so much alike and how they'd be a perfect couple.

Nice guys stay losing.


edit: I even told her that the best course of action was to ignore him completely because each time she gave him an inch he'd take a mile.

And guess what? She actually unfriended him on Facebook. Bwhahaha!

[BlueTsunami]

Instead of playing these “will she like my Facebook post?” games with a woman you’ve already been intimate with, you could just message her.

 

You've hit Lv.2, Atra. Time to think like a Lv.2 player, shakabrah

[Atramental]

Instead of playing these “will she like my Facebook post?” games with a woman you’ve already been intimate with, you could just message her.

 

You've hit Lv.2, Atra. Time to think like a Lv.2 player, shakabrah

Well, one reason why I haven't texted her back is because I don't really have anything substantial to say.



I mean, I'm all ears if you guys can provide me some stuff that can get the ball rolling again.

[Atramental]

Well, one reason why I haven't texted her back is because I don't really have anything substantial to say.



I mean, I'm all ears if you guys can provide me some stuff that can get the ball rolling again.

In your interactions to this point, have you always initiated the text conversations, or does she ever message you first?

It's a mix.

[shosta]

you seriously haven't talked to her since you whiskey dicked it? you should have messaged her the next day trying to hang out again

[Atramental]

you seriously haven't talked to her since you whiskey dicked it? you should have messaged her the next day trying to hang out again

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. 

Also, I even showed her my other tinder matches the night we boned (well, this was an hour before we boned. We were at a bar). I have options. (so does she... I saw her matches as well)

[I'm a Puppy!]

If you want to have a serious relationship with this woman, playing games is not going to get you there.

[Atramental]

That's the key problem though.

She flat out told me (multiple times) she's done with relationships. (at least for now...)

Basically, she's going through a "I'm going to fuck whoever I want whenever I want" phase after her bf of 4 years dumped her.

[I'm a Puppy!]

If you want to have a relationship with this woman, playing games is not going to get you there. If this is just about sex, there's less emotionally dangerous ways to get it

[Atramental]

At the bar she said, more or less, "Hey, I hope I'm not leading you on or anything."

And I straight up told her. "The ball is in your court if you want something more. I'm completely fine with being friends."

edit:
Basically I'm demonstrating that I have value apart from her and that I am secure on my own/with someone else.

[Huff]

Figure out weekend plans then invite her. I dunno that seems pretty simple to me

[I'm a Puppy!]

If you want to really be friends to her and yourself, you should be honest with her and yourself.

[Huff]

Or just invite her to Netflix and chill if you want to be more forward

[Atramental]

If my date tonight flakes I might go to the karaoke event she might be going to tonight.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Two things:
- Like I said before, it seems to me that she wants to be loved and adored, but doesn't want to love and adore
- In every relationship there is a pedestal. You only get enough energy to lift someone onto that pedestal. Right now you should be lifting yourself to that pedestal. Not her.

[I'm a Puppy!]

At most make a joke reference when you contact her as a friend;  "Wanted to give you a few days to recover from what I'm sure was the best almost sex of your life."

[BIONIC]

edit:
Basically I'm demonstrating that I have value apart from her and that I am secure on my own/with someone else.

 

[HardcoreRetro]

I like how everything about Atra's situation is hard, except for... well...

[CatsCatsCats]

[brawndolicious]

It doesn't sound like Atra wants to wholeheartedly go into a full relationship. And I don't blame him.

The best thing you can do is joke privately with her about limp orgasms while encouraging her to meet other people. And you can of course pursue the type of dating that you want at this point.

[BlueTsunami]

Time to bust out the boombox and blast Khias 'My Neck, My Back' outside the possum coop

[Atramental]

I’m seeing someone else this Saturday evening.

I think my Thursday date is gonna flake.

I’ll try to reach out to possum girl Friday but I have a big job I have to do tomorrow that’s going to eat my entire day.

[Bebpo]

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Thanks! That's also really helpful.

I'm seeing how things pan out with the person I got going with on Monday (hopefully date this weekend), but if it doesn't work out I'm using your guys advice and switching up my photos.

On that last photo, a gal told me once that sweat is unattractive for photos. Not sure how valid that is.