I got 3 kids and a waifu and still got time for work. Just be honest with yourself yo
Yeah, but (one can assume ) you actually love your wife & kids.
Near the tail end of our brief relationship, I felt nothing for this girl except a very mild sense of gratitude. Any sense of infatuation or attachment was essentially gone after the 4th time we had sex.
nothing wrong with pump and dump if all parties are in on it... but you send very mixed/bad signals when you put yourself up as in a relationship when you really just want to nut in a rando every now and again... and again nothing wrong with that, i have friends who just want FWB's and they're fine with it, but they don't muddy the message... just be honest with yourself for your reasoning, it certainly isn't to do with needing to focus of your work/career lol. you just want to nut and run, no need to make it more significant than that. embrace it. just be straight with everyone you nut in.
also keep in mind that while most people are willing to start a relationship as FWB/NSA moooooooost of humanity in my experience eventually wants to do something deeper than that... so you need to be aware of that and either preempt it or be willing to go down that road... also this is why everyone was telling you to slow down. you moved from hookup to husband in like 2 days.