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[TVC15]

Jesus, Blue. I want to pop the pimples on your roided-out dick.

[ToxicAdam]

Isn’t redhead and schizophrenic being redundant?

[BlueTsunami]

Jesus, Blue. I want to pop the pimples on your roided-out dick.

 

[Rahxephon91]

So bad news. I feel like this is over or I should end it.

Yesterday she came over and we had a nice Xbox date where she brought hers and we played at the same time. Eventually we got physical and at first it was good, but then I lost my erection and couldn’t continue. This is the 2nd time and I got mad. It made her uncomfortable she said. Now I didn’t yell or anything. I don’t know what I did but it doesn’t matter because I was a jerk and she didn’t like it.

One of her problems is that my insecurities have kept poping up. I’ll ask her during sex if it’s ok or good and so on. She has said many times it’s fine and fun, that the sex is good and I need to stop doubting myself.

After that we talked for a bit. She said at no point has my performance disappointed her and that a lot of this is in my head. But if this continues to be a problem well it’s not going to work as she has her own shit to deal with. She said I’m important to her and that this isn’t over as she trusts me and I’m one of the few people to really get past her barrier and so on. What has turned her off is my confidence in myself. She said right now maybe we should take a break from sex and I feel like that really means this is over.

I don’t know I really like this girl, but I don’t know if I can handle this and despite what she she says I just feel she’s going to find someone else.

I just feel I should end it now before it gets worse. I don’t think I’m equibbed for relationships at this point.

We talked today and things have seemingly resumed but I just feel like it’s going to be hard to recover as more and more of my bad side is shown.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

lolwut

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you're still in. not much anyone can do for you to get you to calm down and enjoy yourself. it's like you hit the game winner, won the championship. now you're at the presser bad mouthing yourself and alienating yourself from your teammates.

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think about snorting a line of meth off rioutos dick, it's how all the big boys do it 

[naff]

insecure whisky dick is pretty common. at least anecdotally, i've def had it, and a number of friends have talked to me about it in HS. your readiness to give up and wallow in hopeless shit instead of just accepting your issue and moving on is the issue. chill out man.

[naff]

also, y'know, we have modern medicine now. not unheard of to get some assistance until you feel comfortable (viagra). also second therapy lel.

[Rahxephon91]

Well it’s not like I’m unsure if she likes me. She’s said she does. What I think is going to happen is she’s going to realize I’m too insercure to be her partner and slowly move away from that. I’ve already shown I am. This downtime from sex is probably the first move and after that she’ll probably find someone who can satisfy her and be confident. I’ll just be a special friend.

Today she said I’m too focused on thinking she just wants good sex with me and that she’d  be happy just enjoying my company. To me that reads as admintiance that this sex thing hasn’t worked.

I guess my problem is I just don’t buy that she wants to keep going. That’s on me.

But yes I thought about going back to the gym to raise testerone and stuff. I can’t get Viagra. I don’t have insurance and what not. It would be too expensive for me.

I mean I probably won’t end it at least on my end. I’ll carry on like everything’s fine and I’m trying to get better. But I think it’s not actually mutual and I should end it because I clearly can’t handle this.

I mean at least now I have an idea what these things are like.

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[BlueTsunami]

Honestly Rahx, this is why it was suggested you work on yourself before trying to getting into it with someone. Now you get to experience the awkwardness of trying to sort your shit out to a spectator.

On the flip, she's obviously very patient and understanding. Listen to what she has to say, let her guide you as she seems to be doing and stop thinking that life is some sort of multi layer gambit.

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^^^ also FHUTA!

[Rahxephon91]

I mean it’s not like I set out to get into a relationship with this person. It just happen gradually. I was just myself. It’s just now she’s meeting the bad part of that.

I get that she’s patient and that’s great. Because she also has her own problems and must find me somewhat worthwhile. I get the impression I’m the first person to treat her well.

But I just think it would be easier if I ended it now instead of her getting feud up later and doing it. Which would probably hurt a lot worse.

I just think I have too many problems to sort through to make this work.

[team filler]

But I just think

I just think

[BlueTsunami]

And the curse of the old slumbering snail dick sounds like you're in your head too much. Basically filler is on what it is. I mean, yeah hittup the gym but, once she's comfortable again, maybe ask that y'all take it slower and try to feel the moment instead of orchestrating it.

[Rahxephon91]

I mean yeah it’s in my head obviously and it’s easy to mock me for this. I just think this is going to end terribly for me. It just added to my insecurities. I learned my dick doesn’t work and maybe prob or my own brain has ruined it for me. I mean it made me feel good and when I’m with this person I feel great, but I also feel incredible fear. Now maybe if I remove myself from this I can just feel like “hey now I know relationships don’t work for me what do I care”. It just seems very hard and my biggest fear is I’ve fuxked up with someone I actually like.

Lol I mean I guess we can just be friends.

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like my posts and I'll fix you

[BlueTsunami]

. It just seems very hard and my biggest fear is I’ve fuxked up with someone I actually like.

Lol I mean I guess we can just be friends.

You haven't fucked it up. Its natural, it happens to dudes. Now cutting and running would be fucking things up with her. You also have to see how defeatist you were when not with someone and how that same mindset is being applied now, don't you?

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still #teamrahx, but I'm also a raidah fan 

[Rahxephon91]

Well I appreciate the bore not making fun of me for my dick problems. I just wish I wasn't so fucked up.

But I do still think the right thing is to end this. I'm not going to instantly start having great boners and being more confident. In the mean time (if it honestly hasn't started already) her interests will wane and she'll find someone better. Which will suck when it happens.

I guess what I find hard to do now is maintain someone's interests when they've seen how unlikable you are. I don't know why this girl would still want to talk to me. It's easy to say she doesn't want to do end it. But I don't believe it. I feel like saying we should pause on sex is the slow beginning of that.

[team filler]

too bad you're not a girl or gay. you could just lay there and get pounded from behind and get put on your knees to suck dick.

[team filler]

you're so self-defeating, rahx  this is worse than everything in the bad vibes thread 


just want to give you a big hug, breh 

[Rahxephon91]

I don't really need a hug. I'm going to be fine.  At least I'm better informed now. When this ends I can at least maybe glean some knowledge from it.

I mean the stuff that I regret is the fact that this girl was pretty perfect for me and I've fucked it up. She was sarcastic, very funny, independent, not girly girl, and intersted in sex. She was open about it and very communicative with me. Wanted me to tell her how I wanted a bj and said I could cum on her which I won't be able to do now. I kind of had the perfect girl on my hands and I messed it up.

Ok maybe I need a hug.

[Rahxephon91]

This one is a lost cause.

Going to a doctor, getting back to the gym, and trying to build confidence are ongoing things that won't help this one, so it's a wash. It sucks, but this one I don't think is going to be fixed.

I mean she says yeah it's not over and she dosen't regret anything, but lets be real here. Why would she want to be someone who can't keep there thing erect and is very unconfident? Why put a pause on having sex if you are actually enjoying it? I don't know it seems pretty clear to me that she's trying to wind this down and is losing interests.

I've learned some things from it, so it wasn't a waste, but I'm being realistic here.

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she's saying to put a pause on sex, because it's causing you so much grief.

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"Those who are compulsively attached to the results of action cannot really enjoy what they do; they get downcast when things do not work out and cling more desperately when they do. So the Gita classifies the karma of attachment as pleasant at first, but 'bitter as poison in the end' (18:38)"

[Rahxephon91]

Maybe it's genuine concern. Maybe it's not. She said that she thought we should put a pause on sex because of my frustration and anger about doing a good job and not because of my actual performance. She said that I'm stuck on the notion that she just wants to have good sex with me, but that she enjoys my company even without it. She said that we have to get comfortable again, but that she dosen't know if we'll have sex again. Honestly it just seems like I've turned her off to the idea of sex and were just going to be friends. Which I don't know, I've never been friends with someone who I had an actual sexual thing with and had kind of intense feelings for. Calling it a wash is dismissive, but I mean it seems like this relationship is over or is at least moving away from being sexual. At this point she'll probably find someone else who can satisfy her without any confidence issues. And I'd rather bail before that happens. Her reassurances read to me as making a landing pad for a relationship without sex. Which honestly will frustrate me more as her presence will remind me that I really fucked up. I also don't want to fall back on porn either.

I don't know what I'm doing. I mean I'm not going to attempt to end it, but I don't want to sit around waiting for it end either.


Also how do I even get affordable psychiatry without insurance? Either way it's not going to be an instant fix so this current situation counts as a loss.

I'm just really worried that I fucked up a great thing.

[Rahxephon91]

Is this online? I’ve never bought medical drugs.

[skullstorm]

Rahx, no matter what the Bore always says, a big fat juicy cock is not the be all and end all of fucking everything. Yes, it's nice and everyone here worships cock but sometimes you have to focus on the smaller things in life. Forget that thing for a while, hang out and have fun with your girl, learn something new about her, bake her a cake, make her a mixtape or draw a funny picture for her, fucking take it back to a more innocent stage. When things get cute and flirty, don't feel pressure to perform but instead just focus on her, just holding and kissing her, maybe eventually let the cock back into play but as long as you're fixated on your dingdong it is staying in your pants. No one is to go near it, not even you.

If you can get Cialis then maybe try that as fallback but don't rush straight to meds. Give your peen a break and stop being so hard on it or it won't be hard. That little feller feels the pressure way harder than you do now. Yes, everyone loves cock but sometimes you need to let go of the things you love so that when you get back to it you appreciate it in a whole new way. And so will she, after a while of not being allowed near it she'll be all over that shit. And no, she won't go looking for stray dick the moment she can't get yours, unless she's a legit sex addict nympho.

Tldr; forget the dick for now and focus on having fun. Fun with the dick will follow.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

LOL, don’t buy Cialis

I agree with skullstorm and stop assuming the absolute worst case scenario as a default. I’ve never seen anyone try to fuck up a good thing as much as what I’ve been seeing these last several posts. Based on your posts, you found a good girl: someone who is kind, patient, and understanding. Do not fuck this one up. In fact, at this point you should just do the exact opposite of what your mind is telling you to do.

[HardcoreRetro]

[BlueTsunami]

Rahx over here trying to cure cancer and I'm sure she's like, damn my dude I'm just tryna play some vidya and cuddle with ya

[Atramental]

Met another married women last night who is “monogam-ish”.

I just don’t understand why I’m running into this trend of married & engaged women who seemingly want to jump my bones. 

edit: also, her husband looks like a giant “soyboy”. 

He must be really funny or have a lot of money because Jesus...

[Mupepe]

If you take cialis are you going to take it for the rest of your life?  because if you think your mind is fucking with you now wait until the anxiety that hits you the first time you try to fuck being off of cialis (or any other dick drug).  It's a mental problem that you need to address accordingly and your girl is giving you the best medicine there is - kindness and understanding.  Trust her and take it. 

[Huff]

As the bores local family druggist, boner pills ain’t going to help you

[skullstorm]

Yeah ok I know nothing about dick drugs so maybe hold off on them unless your junk is really literally dead. Maybe just make sure you watch no porn, don't jack it, don't let her touch it too soon now so it won't do the whole hard for a minute and in a coma as soon as your brain goes "aww shit I wonder how long this will last".

Essentially, what I'm saying is get a penis cage and send the key to Bork. When he eventually after about a month of raging about couriers finally receives it and sends it back to you everything should be fine!

[ToxicAdam]

Met another married women last night who is “monogam-ish”.

I just don’t understand why I’m running into this trend of married & engaged women who seemingly want to jump my bones. 

Only 3-5 percent of all mammals form life-long bonds with their mate.

I don't think humans are any different, since we all come from the same tree. IMO, people are not programmed for long-term monogamy and are not adept enough to fight through those impulses (to leave). That's why marriage is a religious ceremony. They had to instill the fear of god into people to get them to stay together.


 

[Space Jam is Canon]

It’s good that you realize that you’re sabotaging yourself, but I suggest you listen to everyone else and realize that this is a growing pain that you shouldn’t shy away from. I guarantee you fucking this up explicitly will be a lot worse for you in the long run than letting it just run its course naturally. It’s really frustrating trying to get through to you that, without treatment, you have literally no clue what baseline normalcy is. Do not trust your judgment here. You can recover from this and should definitely try.

Also keep in mind that this is kind of a new frontier for male sexuality and that dysfunction is readily becoming the new norm for young men. I had the same problems with my first girlfriend at 21, for what it’s worth. All her past flings were 10 years my senior, ridiculously attractive, and had a lot more to offer in terms of stability and experience. She could have had pretty much any dude that she wanted, but she wanted me. I couldn’t wrap my head around that, but that’s because I hated myself just like you do. History will continue repeating itself until you find some way to redress that.

[BlueTsunami]

Rahx, another thing, you really need to stop assuming what shes all about. Either ask her or stop assuming. Because your assumptions are, as read, just a projection of your lack of self confidence in what you have to offer her.

[ToxicAdam]

[citation needed]

I don't know if you're aware, but there is a website called google where you can type words/phrases into it and it will bring up results.

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=Only+3-5+percent+of+all+mammals+form+life-long+bonds+with+their+mate.

[Rahxephon91]

I know it’s playful ribbing ritious, but I don’t kind of think I ruined this. I mean it’s not like we had an argument. I just got clearly pissed and then she said she was done having sex tonight and that lead to a talk. I mean yes after that she did she wasn’t ending anything, but I don’t know things have cooled. I don’t know, she’ll be gone next week for a trip. It’s kind of terrible to end on this note. When she comes back I doubt she’s going to want to resume anything when she remembers how Unconfident I am.

[Mr. Gundam]

Rahx you sound like you're trying to find a reason that it's over. Take her at her word at see what happens.

This "giving up so I don't get hurt more" thing just doesn't make much sense to me;  if you are so convinced the girl wants to ditch you, how is that even going to hurt less?  Like I "get it" you won't have the memory of the person dumping you but you still have this idea that they didn't want you anymore and that's really where pain comes from. 

The way Rahx has talked about himself in the past, his brain is going to feel hurt no matter what decision you make, so why not do the opposite of what you'd normally do and work on being better. There is no shame in that.

[BlueTsunami]

[Rahxephon91]

Well I haven’t done anything drastic or said anything to her. But in my head it is actually over. Maybe I’m wrong or acting on negative assumptions. But I was right about one assumption, she did in fact like me.

I don’t know, she doesn’t seem to want to hang out this weekend so I figure it’s done.

It may not make much sense to you, but it makes sense to me. I want to get away from the pain as soon as possible. As soon as I know it’s over I can start getting over it, instead of sitting around wondering and getting more anxious. So if I can get ahead of it I can carry on.

And the reason I want to get out is because I feel incredibly shitty. I had something that was pretty good and ruined it and would rather just get past that. So it’s going to feel shitty anyway, might as well get a jump on it. I also just don’t think I can do relationships. I don’t have the mind for them right now so at least I know that. I probably won’t wine about them or try to get into them now that I know.

Basicly I just want to stop being miserable. I wasn’t. I felt good and wow that went away quickly.

[nachobro]

[demi]

can u send her my way when ur done with her thanks

[BlueTsunami]

So when you've fled the scene, and you're scouring tinder for love, please don't act like the universe did not throw you the biggest goddamn bone ever.

Oh and good luck finding another woman who actually enjoys playing videogames, even one who doesn't view it as a complete waste of time.

This is def beyond forum encouragement. A crash in slow motion.

[Rahxephon91]

Oh I will not be touching Tinder or the likes ever again. I don’t think I’ll be looking for a relationship for a long time.

And yes I realize the universe gave me something great. That’s kind of why I’m upset that I fucked it up. But there’s really nothing I can do. I mean the other party has to be open to it and I’m telling you they aren’t. Again I’ve just been lying low right now. I haven’t made any sudden moves or anything. I’ve just chilled as far as she’s concerned. But I can tell there’s something wrong now.

[team filler]

if you want her, go after her. you'll find no growth going back to your comfort zone. love you, rahx breh

[Rahxephon91]

I appreciate that, but I’m going to be fine. I can’t force the girl to be ok with me after she lost interests. Any self help stuff will be an on going thing that won’t help that.

[Rahxephon91]

can u send her my way when ur done with her thanks

You don’t even know what she looks like.

Here’s a pic of her with one of my dogs.

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https://m.imgur.com/a/tCxnGXw

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[Olivia Wilde Homo]

can u send her my way when ur done with her thanks

You don’t even know what she looks like.

Here’s a pic of her with one of my dogs.

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https://m.imgur.com/a/tCxnGXw

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lolwut

[Rahxephon91]

And one positive Glen and ritious is I won’t be complying about not having sex at least. I can’t do it even if I wanted to so I have nothing to complain about.

[Rahxephon91]

can u send her my way when ur done with her thanks

You don’t even know what she looks like.

Here’s a pic of her with one of my dogs.

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https://m.imgur.com/a/tCxnGXw

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lolwut

What?

[team filler]

you and yo girl make a trip out my way. I'll dick you both down, problem solved 

[BlueTsunami]

This is like the forum version of The Passion of the Christ

[demi]

can u send her my way when ur done with her thanks

You don’t even know what she looks like.

Here’s a pic of her with one of my dogs.

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https://m.imgur.com/a/tCxnGXw

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She likes videogames and likes to have sex. Who cares about the rest

[Rahxephon91]

This is like the forum version of The Passion of the Christ

I do look a little like Jesus. Espically when I had long hair.