Well I'm not going to bore the bore with a lot of the details. I had a good conversation and I feel better with what happen.
Edit- I guess I can add something to answer some questions.
Her friend was the bf of a dear friend who was murdered. So they bonded over an extreme lost. It's not something I've wanted to mess with as it's not my place and she can have her own life obviously. The guy though (who I don't know), has had feelings for her for 11 years now. According to her she has made it very clear she is and will never be interested. He has never taken it well. Recently, they have reconnected because of Call of Duty and Covid, playing very often. Guys, I'm a 30 year old PS2 nerd. I like my single player games and can only take so much CoD. Wanting to avoid mistakes from before, I have left that alone. Playing Cod with the bros is her own thing. I'd also like to say I am more secure in myself then even last year. So I trust my gf. I guess coming to the realization that she is still dating me angers him and he has felt that she has lead him on. So he lashed out. Which honestly angers me, because the guy is also in his 30s. If I can grow up and move past getting angry at women for not returning your feelings, anyone can.
The details are boring, but from what I understand, he has consistently hit on her and made comments about how nice she looks and asked for images. I'm not going to detail my gf's backstory(maybe I did in previous pages, but yknow it's not my business really to lay it out), but she like everyone has her hang ups. Blaming herself for others behavior and wanting to please people to a possible toxic degree is among them. So i guess driven by that and under a drunken haze she gave in, not wanting to upset the status quo of having friends to enjoy games with. She can admit it was dumb.
If anything I was more disappointed, because it's not in her to even send pictures. It was a long time before she sent me naughty pictures and it was done to spice up the long distance. It also possibly touched on a little ego, as well those are my pictures.
So we had a long talk about it and it was really good. I don't like that she did it, but yeah it's not the end of the world. But honestly, the other guy deserves some blame I think. The sad part is his anger over honestly the fact that she is'nt dating him, has created a lot of drama over the past two days. It's really dumb and I really feel the dude is an idiot. A shame you can't date someone you have intense feelings for, but also shitty to not be in thier life because you can't be happy for them.