In cases of infidelity, why are you stuck paying alimony?
As I understand it, from my time studying bird law, is that alimony laws are very archaic and usually make the "bread winner" responsible for alimony. Irregardless of the reason for the split, the child is expected to receive the same care after split.
This is correct. Infidelity as a reason for divorce is completely archaic. In West Virginia for example, I would have to catch her actually Pee to Vee fucking and then never let her into the house again. If she crosses the threshold and stays the night in the house, I have apparently condoned it.
See WV State Law:
§48-5-301. When a divorce not to be granted.
No divorce for adultery shall be granted on the uncorroborated testimony of a prostitute, or a particeps criminis, or when it appears that the parties voluntarily cohabited after the knowledge of the adultery, or that it occurred more than three years before the institution of the action; nor shall a divorce be granted for any cause when it appears that the offense charged has been condoned, or was committed by the procurement or connivance of the plaintiff, or that the plaintiff has, within three years before the institution of action, been guilty of adultery not condoned, but such exception shall not be applicable to causes of action brought pursuant to sections 5-201 and 5-202 of this chapter. The defense of collusion shall not be pleaded as a bar to a divorce.
§48-5-204. Grounds for divorce; adultery.
A divorce may be ordered for adultery. Adultery is the voluntary sexual intercourse of a married man or woman with a person other than the offender's wife or husband. The burden is on the party seeking the divorce to prove the alleged adultery by clear and convincing evidence.
That's why I have this in my separation agreement:
WHEREAS, irreconcilable differences have arisen between the parties hereto, at no fault of either party, and the parties have been residing separately, and the parties hereto expect that such differences and separation shall continue indefinitely; and,
So basically, she could go to a bukkake camp and come back and I can't divorce her with cause. The state has defined sexual intercourse as actual fucking. So with that, I am divorcing on irreconcilable differences, and since I make more than her? She gets half. It's not fair but it's the law. Keep in mind I make SIX TIMES WHAT SHE DOES. But she has been incredibly fair in negotiations. In fact I am now hoping to have negotiation done with my lawyer on Tuesday the 15th, and send out the separation agreement to her, so maybe, MAYBE we can get into court on March 1st and have it done in one day. God I hope so.
Also keep in mind that custody is a non starter here. My kid is 24, they just happen to be in this house. I really, REALLY want to get them to leave.
In the meantime, I have been removed by my parents from both of their wills and inheritance because apparently I make terrible decisions about partners and they don't want my STBX wife to get any of the money (she can't, she's not entitled to it), or "any other future idiot you marry to get any of it."