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[Kara]

Someone give me a recap on possum-chick, because right now I'm just imagining Atra trying to fuck a giant (female) opossum.

Atra really liked this woman who has a pet opossum that he met on Tinder, he got high on the first date instead of partaking in the normal first date ritual and, accordingly got put in the friend zone which he disingenuously stayed in rather than moving on but shat up this thread for weeks about it because that's Atra. He finally did get a shot to jump out of the friend zone but couldn't get an erection when the moment presented itself (perhaps the ultimate manifestation of the "look, it's fucking nothing.gif" step in the Atra Cycle), then he didn't really try to recover from that but still obsessed about this woman's social media posts and did some other embarrassing stuff. Then on December 2, 2018, he realized that she was finally unavailable to him even though she'd had several sexual encounters with different men during their "friendship."

[Tasty]

Damn that's harsh Kara.

And that's also rough, Atra.

[Tasty]

Wait why did he get high on the first date

[Atramental]

Her and her gay roommate were doing dabs and I didn’t want to seem like a square by saying no.

[Tasty]

Her and her gay roommate were doing dabs and I didn’t want to seem like a square by saying no.

I don't understand the negative outcome here then...

[Tasty]

Also dabs are the worst, you can do better man.

[Atramental]

I become a manic cartoon character version of myself when I get super high.

[Tasty]

Oh. Then yeah that definitely wasn't a great decision then. Sorry dude, I also get that way.

Tbf I also wouldn't hold it against anyone if they act manic or cartoonish while high. That's sort of the point.

[Atramental]

Anyways. I need to stop beating the dead possum with a stick.

Sorry boritos.  :'(

[Nintex]

You killed her.

Damn.

[Kara]

Damn that's harsh Kara.

By all accounts she was a hot mess and a jerk but that just makes the whole thing that much worse.

Atra needs to work through some underlying issues he has instead of feeding the posters here who enjoy his unhappiness.

[Atramental]

I mean, is it fairly common now-a-days to have sex on the first date if things go well?

Or is that like a 1 in 1000 thing?

[Tasty]

I mean, is it fairly common now-a-days to have sex on the first date if things go well?

Or is that like a 1 in 1000 thing?

From what I've gathered about you normies, 2nd date is the standard now and 1st is seen as tacky (but not completely uncommon, more 1/20 than 1/1000.)

[Mr. Gundam]

I mean, is it fairly common now-a-days to have sex on the first date if things go well?

Or is that like a 1 in 1000 thing?

From what I've gathered about you normies, 2nd date is the standard now and 1st is seen as tacky (but not completely uncommon, more 1/20 than 1/1000.)

Sounds about right. The one girl I had sex with on the first date was a disaster of a hot mess. Fun six months but epic hot mess.

[CatsCatsCats]

I mean, is it fairly common now-a-days to have sex on the first date if things go well?

Or is that like a 1 in 1000 thing?

Happens for me fairly often, but my circumstance is different

[TEEEPO]

I mean, is it fairly common now-a-days to have sex on the first date if things go well?

Or is that like a 1 in 1000 thing?

it's becoming increasingly uncommon and unless there's a sudden social shift, it'll continue trending downwards for years to come. millenials are simply not having as much sex as the past generations, yet they're dating more than ever.

[Tasty]

I mean, is it fairly common now-a-days to have sex on the first date if things go well?

Or is that like a 1 in 1000 thing?

it's becoming increasingly uncommon and unless there's a sudden social shift, it'll continue trending downwards for years to come. millenials are simply not having as much sex as the past generations, yet they're dating more than ever.

Data/links? Interesting if true.

[mormapope]

I mean, is it fairly common now-a-days to have sex on the first date if things go well?

Or is that like a 1 in 1000 thing?

Out of the four dates I've gotten with OKcupid, sex on the first date happened twice.

Matters who the person is really, and how long you talk to them before that first date too.

[TEEEPO]

I mean, is it fairly common now-a-days to have sex on the first date if things go well?

Or is that like a 1 in 1000 thing?

it's becoming increasingly uncommon and unless there's a sudden social shift, it'll continue trending downwards for years to come. millenials are simply not having as much sex as the past generations, yet they're dating more than ever.

Data/links? Interesting if true.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/

this article touches up on the less sex part and partly glosses over the new dating subculture brought about by the rise of apps, but most of that is conjecture. but if you've frequented any bar for over the past ten years, it's not hard to notice the influx of first dates within earshot regardless of where you sit.


from my own anecdotal evidence with a very very large sample size: when a woman on okc puts that they don't sleep on the first date -- and the good majority do -- they fucking mean it.

[Huff]

Depends on the type of date And maybe age range

The lines between date and one night stands have really blurred with tinder

[Kara]

Not sleeping with TEEEPO when you have the chance, smgdh.

[BlueTsunami]

This is why you hookup with older women. They just tryna get their nut like everyone else their age. Hint hint, Atra. Time for Adventures in Sugar Mamma. Stop tryna hookup with twenty year olds with borderline personality disorders.

[Tasty]

I mean, is it fairly common now-a-days to have sex on the first date if things go well?

Or is that like a 1 in 1000 thing?

it's becoming increasingly uncommon and unless there's a sudden social shift, it'll continue trending downwards for years to come. millenials are simply not having as much sex as the past generations, yet they're dating more than ever.

Data/links? Interesting if true.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/

this article touches up on the less sex part and partly glosses over the new dating subculture brought about by the rise of apps, but most of that is conjecture. but if you've frequented any bar for over the past ten years, it's not hard to notice the influx of first dates within earshot regardless of where you sit.


from my own anecdotal evidence with a very very large sample size: when a woman on okc puts that they don't sleep on the first date -- and the good majority do -- they fucking mean it.

So your statement was majority-anecdotal...

[TEEEPO]

well, the data for millenials having less sex isn't exactly anecdotal...

and as the anecdotal evidence in this thread suggests: older women like to get down more often than not

[Kara]

iirc part of the reason why millennial sexual activity has declined is ascribed to the higher percentage of them living at home / community living / vaguely anarchist communes compared to prior generations or something.

[Tasty]

iirc part of the reason why millennial sexual activity has declined is ascribed to the higher percentage of them living at home / community living / vaguely anarchist communes compared to prior generations or something.

Or maybe it's just because we're too poor to afford dating and/or prostitutes.

https://twitter.com/businessinsider/status/1068169111702769664

[TEEEPO]

there are a plethora of reasons but from the way i see it, it basically boils down to the the younger generation not being able to cope with anxiety so they retreat to using their mobile devices and electronics in solitude. though it appears that this no longer something that is exclusive to millenials anymore

[Bebpo]

I mean, is it fairly common now-a-days to have sex on the first date if things go well?

Or is that like a 1 in 1000 thing?

Definitely not 1 in 1000. Probably more like 1 in 3-4 if dates go well in my experience. Most of the time if the other person wants to jump your bones, they're probably excited to do it by the first date, but for various reasons they might want to wait until date 2 or 3 (not to end up with just a one night stand, not to come off as desperate, etc...) and then about 1/3rd of the time the other people doesn't give a fuck and then you end up fucking in my experience.

I usually try not to sleep with people on the first date for those kind of reasons (like to not rush things) but if the other person pushes things forward on the first date I have no problem with it.

[Atramental]

Fuck. I met a cute and super talented girl at a bar last night (she has 200K+ followers on her webcomic Instagram).
I went on her tumblr today and saw that she considers herself asexual. 

[Bebpo]

Fuck. I met a cute and super talented girl at a bar last night (she has 200K+ followers on her webcomic Instagram).
I went on her tumblr today and saw that she considers herself asexual. 

Still worth seeing if you have something. I know a couple people in asexual relationships and they're really satisfied emotionally even if they don't have sex or rarely have sex.

[Atramental]

Yeah well... Even though I rarely fuck I still enjoy it and I’ve grown tired of porn.

[TEEEPO]

not around you they don't

[I'm a Puppy!]

We can't all have that Exodust big dick energy 

[CatsCatsCats]

Energy sword Sunday is getting out of hand

[TEEEPO]

or crippling ocd

[Atramental]

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Yay!

[I'm a Puppy!]

[Atramental]

Yeah yeah yeah.

Well, I’m proud of myself and feel much better now.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Yeah yeah yeah.

Well, I’m proud of myself

Narrator: He shouldn't have been

and feel much better now.

Narrator: Until he realized what he did

[Atramental]

What... did I do?

She’s already seeing another guy and he seems like a better fit for her than I was.

[I'm a Puppy!]

What... did I do?

You mean outside of pedastalling the hell out of an obvious jerk, lowering your self worth to prop hers up, wasting a ton of emotional energy that could have been spent on more worthy endeavors and people. And then continuing to do so for weeks after a forum full of people advised you otherwise, then end it by giving her the victory? You mean outside of that?

[Atramental]

[toku]

[demi]

Literal Cuckold

[Atramental]

She wasn’t a good romantic fit for me (she’s poly and I’m fairly monogamous). I was too infatuated to realize that until I did some soul searching this weekend.

Also, I hate the feeling of needing to constantly compete with other guys for a woman’s affection.

Sometimes the winning move is not to play.

edit: Also, my gut instincts were yelling at me to do this for my own sanity.

[toku]

shutup

[Atramental]

*sigh*

Well, I’m going to get a good nights sleep tonight. That’s for sure.

[I'm a Puppy!]

shutup

This is when you know you fucked up. Toku tells you to shut up. It's like screwing up so bad that your sweet little grandma is like , "listen here bitch!"

[Atramental]

So you guys just wanted me to suffer in silence?

This mental anguish was throwing off the rest of my game with other women because I was secretly hoping I’d get another chance with p. girl. 

I was self sabotaging a bunch of other dates with rookie mistakes.

[Atramental]

https://markmanson.net/fuck-yes

Also, you can blame this article for motivating me to do what I did tonight.

[CatsCatsCats]

I just want to see you happy, Atra, I fear this isn’t the path there

[brawndolicious]

She's not poly, she's test-driving at best.

She's more like an emotional Kramer. Borrows your stuff, returns it with an empty tank, and then acts like they're doing you a favor by saying good kisser/bad dicker.

Watch some Rupaul and learn how to self-love.

[Atramental]

I just want to see you happy, Atra, I fear this isn’t the path there

Time will tell.

[Atramental]

We both even said “platonic” at the same time over the phone. 

[Kara]

We both even said “platonic” at the same time over the phone. 

Yes, it's a commonly used word that has few synonyms.

[demi]

should have went for the fat chick

[CatsCatsCats]

Okay, well, how big of a slice of your life do you think you should give your platonic friend?

[Atramental]

Okay, I’m going to bed.

In my mind I did the right and mature thing by setting up boundaries. 

Okay, well, how big of a slice of your life do you think you should give your platonic friend?

I’m her art buddy. So we go to artsy stuff together. So not very big since notable “art events” only happen in my area once or twice a month.

[Huff]

The right boundary was to bounce and block

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

Ah, so this is what fremdschämen feels like